The Accident
Steve Townsend was riding ATV’s with his three brothers near Five Mile Pass, Utah (about 10 miles out of Lehi) on the afternoon of Friday, March 10th 2006. He was following his brother Daniel up and over most hills. Daniel saw what appeared to be a normal 15 foot hill, and began riding to it. It seemed safe considering there were tracks from other ATV riders. Daniel went up the hill cautiously,yet still fairly quickly, and the opposite side of the hill had been carved away. He bailed off the machine moments before it hit the ground, and thought he had broken his arm. He ran as quickly as possible to his ATV and sped around to the other side to try to stop Steve from going off. He was waving, and yelling “No no!” but Steve heard “Go go!” and sped up. The back of the machine flipped up, and Steve held on to the handle bars. He was flipped up and over the front end, and landed on the flat rocky ground on his head and shoulder. The ATV landed on top of him breaking five of his ribs, bruising his heart and left lung, and crushing a portion of his spine. Steve was Life-Flighted to Utah Valley hospital where he is currently in ICU. He can not feel anything from about his nipples and below. X-rays show significant damage to his spinal column and nerves. He dammaged his T3 and T4 at least. (see http://www.spinalinjury.net/html/_spinal_cord_101.html, ) He is in a lot of pain and the doctors are trying to ensure that his lungs and heart are healthy enough before they operate on his spine. Chances of permanent paralysis are 99:1.
Steve is the father of 5 children, happily married for 18 years, an executive at Novell, and a leader of 27 young priests in the local LDS church. He is an incredible person, widely loved and respected. We hope you will join us in our thoughts, love and prayers for him and his family at this time.
This Blog will be updated as Steves condition changes.
This Blog was written by Andrew, his oldest son. (age 17) Keep in mind, I’m still learning, and this is “under construction”. Oh, and if you would like to leave a phone number, email it to tammo_leif@yahoo.com with your name and we will record them for your protection. (you don’t want your phone number on a public access site)
Financial Assistance can be sent to:
Russell Spencer
1136 N Birch Lane
Provo, Utah 84604
Dad goes ATV riding every year, more than once, often with us kids. This was an accident, and four wheelers are just as dangerous as other extream sports. They are fun, and we aren’t in any way saying that they aren’t.
This is Dad/Steve in the black pants and blue jacket
Photos of the Crash Site
This is exactly where Dad landed. They cut the clothes strait off him. You can see they actualy cut them, and the pillow is where his head was.
This is what the “hill” looked like from the side they went up. You can see how they were mistaken. Thats Dad’s helmet on the top.
This is what it looked like from the top of the “hill”.
This is the ATV Dad was riding. The front left corner of the rack nailed him in the back. The huge dent in the back right is from when it bounced. You can see it must have hit pretty hard.
This is Mom and Dad, late late on March 12 I believe.
This is what the rest of us do at the Hospital, seeing as only two people are allowed in the ICU at a time.
This is Shelly
This is Grandma Vicky, Dads Mom.
This is Anthony, Dads little brother. He will be staying with us for a while.
Trying to ease the tensions and stress.
This is (from the left) Andrew, Natalie, Mom and Anthony. Cameron, Shelly’s little girl, is in the baby seat.
This is the blood that was drained from around his lungs. Its kind of gross, so don’t click on the link if you are faint of heart.
Dad’s Quart and a Half of Blood
Gloves from Novell.
March 13th, 2006 at 6:20 pm e
We pray for Dad every night. Join us please. Thanks for all your help everyone!! Bob, thanks for setting up the site.
-Andy
March 13th, 2006 at 6:28 pm e
I’m glad you guys are hanging in there. Keep it up! You are all amazing!
Love ya all
Lizzi
March 13th, 2006 at 6:37 pm e
Great site, Bob.
Even though I was involved in this incident from the time Steve got to the hospital, I learned a lot from this site. The pictures are great. When I heard about your blog, I wondered if I would be able to access it based on my failure to get into SpencerFun but I had no problem.
Mom is taking lots of pictures of people visiting Steve at the hospital. I think it would be nice to post some or all of those.
Steve is one outstanding guy who shines at home, at work and at play. We are all very fortunate to have him in our family and as our friend.
Dad
March 13th, 2006 at 6:40 pm e
Our prayers are with all of you. Thanks for setting up the website so we can stay in touch. Please let us know of anything we can do to help ~ whether it’s today or in the days to come.
~Kalvin & Margret
March 13th, 2006 at 7:03 pm e
Thank you all. Grandpa, um. I totaly had a fair share in making this site!! (this is where I smirk, and then giggle a bit, so you know I”m joking)
Thank you for your help everyone, and your caring of our feelings and needs in this crisis.
-Andy
March 13th, 2006 at 9:14 pm e
This is a great web site (Andrew we know you might not have gotten it set up but you were spearheading it). We’re here to help you whenever you need us.
-Ron
March 13th, 2006 at 9:33 pm e
Thanks guys. I’m working on some more pictures right now. Thank you for everything. Sis. Ulloa, thanks for the cardstock. We love it!!
-Andy
March 13th, 2006 at 10:03 pm e
Andrew, this is well done! Your dad is an inspiration to us all. Each time I go see him I leave more impressed with his stamina and attitude than before – if that’s possible. We should also mention here how your mom has put aside all of her trials to be there for your dad while she should be recovering from a very serious condition of her own. She too is a hero in this story. You kids and all of us associated with them should be and are grateful for them and love them dearly.
March 13th, 2006 at 10:33 pm e
Lets all pray sincerely to GOD for steves speedy recovery. Thanks for keeping us all updated thru this site.
March 14th, 2006 at 10:52 am e
Andrew, thank you so much for creating this site and posting pictures as it brings me into your world. You kids are great and will be the inspiration for your Dad. Me and the girls have been praying for steven and will be there for your family, your dad, my brother, our uncle for as long as it takes. I will be coming out in a few weeks to love, hug and kiss Steven and all of you! – as I told your Dad – I love you Steven and will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes.
March 14th, 2006 at 5:21 pm e
Hello, Steve and family –
You’re in our prayers as we continue in our Russian adoption journey. We’re on track to return home on Saturday.
Thanks for posting this site – we’re grateful to get more complete news. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.
We love and miss you –
Lorilee and Barry
March 14th, 2006 at 6:58 pm e
I hope you get better and the Mauch family will pray ever morning and night and hope you will be ok
March 14th, 2006 at 7:08 pm e
Steve and the gang,
Not one minute has gone by that we haven’t been thinking of you. We will do anything we can for you and your family. We are all here for you and always have a prayer in our heart. We love you so much. Gain strength and hope for the future ‘cause nothing would be greater than you healing fast and coming home. We look forward to that day! We miss you so much.
We love the website. The pictures are great. VERY EMOTIONAL!
March 14th, 2006 at 8:34 pm e
Howdy from Townsend’s in Kansas. Been praying and thinking about all of you since I got the news on Friday. The news site is a great idea, helps us feel that we are closer than Kansas to you all. I am certain that Steven will continue to mend well and have a good recovery. I am very proud of my brother and his family, you all mean a lot to us and are setting such a good example for me to follow and showing great faith in the gospel.
Hope that I can come out in the near future.
Michael
March 14th, 2006 at 9:37 pm e
I was very saddened by the tragic news,shocked too say the least.My
thoughts and prayers are with you cousin, If there is ANYTHING I can
do,or help with, please don’t hesitate to contact me.
numerouno@dslextreme.com
Norm
March 14th, 2006 at 10:09 pm e
You guys are so great! i was so suprized and saden when I heard the news. I wish you all the best and all our love!
The Savage Family
March 14th, 2006 at 10:37 pm e
We just want to let you know that our family cares and you have been in our thoughts and prayers. How wonderful it is to have an eternal family and to see how each member is an important contributer. We have been so inspired by the grace and love in which your children have handled themselves and their courage to do whatever they can for their family. You can be so proud of the beautiful family you are raising and how much you are loved by them and so many others. We hope the best for you, Steve, and we also want Ellen to know that we are praying for her recovery and added strength at this time. We hope that you will find many “tender mercies” along your journey.
All Our Love,
The Dunyon’s
March 15th, 2006 at 1:17 am e
Hang in there Steve. One day at a time and you will get through this. We have faith in you and the Lord. What a great supportive family you have! If there is anything we can do please let us know. I first heard about your accident form one of your co-workers at Novell. Matt Misbach is a good friend and lives next door to us in Orem. He mentioned no names but said is boss had a serious accident at work from an ATV crash. We were talking about how fragile life can be. We love you and your family and our prayers are with you.
Daniel & Michelle Chamberlain
687-0582
March 15th, 2006 at 1:12 pm e
Oh Steve and Ellen our thoughts and prayers are with you always. May you feel the Lord’s great love for you at this time deeper than you have ever felt. We love you both so much. Hang in there, your’re the best
All our love, Chris and Liz Robison, Minnesota
952-937-5808
March 15th, 2006 at 1:49 pm e
Steve, Ellen, and family,
We are saddedned to learn of Steve’s accident. Our Daughter Rebecca is in a class with Natalie who informed us about the accident. We know two men who have survived similar circumstances and whose lives continue to bless all of those around them. We know that Steve is a very strong man with a valiant spirit. Ellen is equally strong. We will always keep you in our prayers.
Kudos to the webmasters!
P.S. AF SYMPHONY has been deeply effected by the turn of events. We are all behind you!
March 15th, 2006 at 2:06 pm e
Hey Bob and Andrew,
Excellent job on the website! We are very grateful to know more of the details about Seve’s injuries and most espeically that he is healing and in good spirits. We have been praying constantly and we are very concerned. We treasure Steve and pray for a miracle on his behalf. We also pray for Ellen and whole family and have put your names in the Baton Rouge temple. Please keep the website up to date so we can know about Seve’s progress.
Much love to your whole family,
Aunt Lorna and Cousin Lilly Spencer
March 15th, 2006 at 2:37 pm e
I don’t really love hospitals. But sometimes I think the veil is much thinner there. I can feel it when I go in to have my babies. And I could feel it when we visited Steve in the ICU. There’s something about being near the edges of life that draws the heavens near. I also thought it peculiar and sweet to see the mortal angels we call doctors and nurses serving and soothing. Heaven seemed so close, it’s like we never left. We love you Townsends!
Buff and Nate
March 15th, 2006 at 5:46 pm e
Steve,
I think you might remember hearing this from my mom (Janet Galbraith):
“There is no chance, no fate, no destiny, that can circumvent, or hinder, or control, the firm resolve of a determined soul.”
May she ‘rest in peace’ and may you have a steady recovery.
Todd
friends@toddgalbraith.com
March 15th, 2006 at 9:15 pm e
Barry & Lorilee,
My we read your comment to my Dad today (Wednesday the 15th) and he says don’t come back on ATV’s.
-Andy
March 15th, 2006 at 10:24 pm e
Oh, Steve and Ellen,
We pray for you all many times a day and are thinking about you constantly. You have incredible strength and courage! We want you to know that we pray also for the Doctors, nurses, and other care-givers that they will be inspired on your behalf—and we have received confirmation that they will! (Kathy speaking—Last night I had a dream that Steve was going around cheering and comforting everyone else—and that does seem to be the case, n’cest pas?)
Our best to you!
Love,
John and Kathy Youngberg
P.S. Emily says to tell you that you’ve always been such a joy to our ward family. Don’t stop now!
March 15th, 2006 at 11:39 pm e
Hey Steve,
Judging from the comments on this site you’ve got a great supoprt group going. We’ve added a bunch more support from the good old 7th/Cambrian Park Ward. Faith and prayers are powerful tools. We hope the Lord showers his tender mercies upon you and that you feel his healing influence.
Joe & Julie Lindsey
March 16th, 2006 at 8:18 am e
Steve, Ellen, and Townsend Family,
Shannon and I send our thoughts and prayers to you. This will be a larger mountain to climb than the one Steve went over, but I know you guys have the stength to tackle it. After seeing the courage, commitment, and hard work Ellen put in at the Jamboree, this is just one more challenge I know she’ll hit head on. Please let us know if there is anything we do to help.
Sincerely,
Gordon and Soon to be Shannon McKenzie
March 16th, 2006 at 8:26 am e
Steve and Ellen—
You and your family are in our prayers. Remember, how many people love you and your family. You have touched many lives and now, it is our turn to touch yours.
March 16th, 2006 at 9:25 am e
Steve and Ellen:
I just found out about the accident today. Please know that you will absolutely be in our thoughts and prayers. We love you!
March 16th, 2006 at 10:47 am e
Steve and Ellen
Wow. Just found out the news today from the Hirchaks. We pray for you and your family. You are good friends and our hearts hurt for you but our spirits have great faith the Lord is watching over you. We love you.
Bruce, Kandy and Family
March 16th, 2006 at 11:01 am e
Dear Townsends,
We just found out about the accident. We will pray for you and your family. Keep your hopes up, we know Heavenly Father will heap blessings on your family and father.
March 16th, 2006 at 11:04 am e
Steven,
Andy (my brother, not your son) called me yesterday and told me about your accident. Needless to say, I was quite shocked and concerned. My family and I have been praying for you and for the doctors and nurses who attend to you. I know that through all the faith and prayers of all those who love and care about you, you and your family will be strengthened and you will be able to overcome. Keep fighting and smiling! And great job Andy(your son, not my brother, ha ha!) on this website. Steven, you should be proud! Prayers will keep on coming from the Kirk family!
Love, Heather, David, Brighton, Haley, Lauren
March 16th, 2006 at 12:40 pm e
I can’t stop rewinding the whole thing in my head, and I’m yelling “stop Steven!” instend of “No,No,No!” I don’t know if I could have stoped him but he may have slowed down.
Some things I want to write incase I foget: (although I don’t think I will forget)
Just after the accident Steven was laying on his back, the first things iremember him saying were” I can’t feel my legs, I think I broke my back”. Well, he was right.
Next I remember him saying” It’s so hard to breath, Dad stay with me”. Speaking of his late father, I’m sure he was there. I’m glad that Anthony, Gomez and I were there to encourage him to continue breathing. It was very painful for him.
Next he said” I shouldn’t be doing things like this.” No, Steven you should be doing things like this. Anyone of us can be seriously injured at many points of our lives. It was a freak accident. All signs were go. You saw me on my 4-wheeler and I had just gone over, you just didn’t know I had crashed on the other side. Then you heard GO! There were other tracks up that side. You did nothing wrong!
Next I remember “you’ve got to tell Ellen”. We did, and I am glad she is there for you.
Steven, you were my best man at my wedding, and you will always be my best man. You have always inspired me to be excellent in life. I am stoked to see what you do with this new chapter in your life. I’m sure you will amaze us all. I know your wheeles are already spinning. Can’t wait to see you next week.
With love,
Your brother, Daniel
March 16th, 2006 at 12:45 pm e
Steven, haven’t seen you in many years. You used to come and study drums with me. Liz and I have you in our prayers too. We are in Branham ward where I was recently released as Bishop. Hang in there Steven, the Lord has much for you to still accomplish in this life.
Warm regards,
Joe
March 16th, 2006 at 3:13 pm e
Hi Townsend Family,
We’re all very sorry to hear about what happened. Your family is in our prayers. We want to come and see you guys, but as it happens, Justin is recovering from an emergency appendectomy from Sunday morning about 1:00. His dad actually asked if we wanted to call our home teachers to assist in giving him a blessing and I only knew you were in the hospital, Steve. I didn’t know how severe things were, I’m so sorry.
I understand your sense of humor is still in-tact Steve, so I’ll just say that we’ll let you and Andrew just count us this month for your home teaching, if that’s all right with you!
We love all of you very much and think you all “rock!”
The Galloways
March 16th, 2006 at 3:20 pm e
Hi Steven (& family),
So sorry to hear the news. Steve and I were good friends in our teen-years.
Steve: I am sorry to hear about the accident, but I know you’ll pull through. You have gone through a lot in your life, and you always come out on top! This will be no different!
My thoughts & prayers (and my families too) go out to you and your family. I’ll keep an eye on this blog and wait for a good time to contact you.
Love & admiration,
Jeff
March 16th, 2006 at 6:07 pm e
Dear Ellen and Steven,
I was so upset by the news of the accident that I was unable to respond to this immediately. I pray for you both and your family. I know that your faith will get you through this. I can not do much for you from the East Coast but please let me know if you need anything. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Miracles happen and I can think of noone more deserving!
Love,
Leslie (from NH)
March 16th, 2006 at 7:10 pm e
We were sorry to hear about the accident. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Cade says, “Priest quorum feels empty when you’re not there”. We all miss your smiling face. Take care!
Love,
The Hill Family
March 16th, 2006 at 7:13 pm e
We were sorry to hear about the accident. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. McCade says, “Priest quorum is not the same without you”. We all miss your smiling face. Take care!
Love,
The Hill Family
March 16th, 2006 at 7:49 pm e
Steve and Ellen,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Life throws out such unexpected events but your faith will be strengthened and will keep you going. We are praying for God’s choicest blessings to be with you and your family. Trevor has already printed the bass riffs for “Dream On” for when you can jam on the guitar again. Thanks for your solid example to the Priests Quorum of the Hillcrest 2nd Ward.
March 16th, 2006 at 8:22 pm e
This is Anthony signed on as Andrew.
I just wanted to say a few things about how great everyone has been. I know how much Steven & Ellen appreciate everyone’s LOVE, comments, and help. It is invaluable. They tell me so everyday. They never imagined so many people cared so much. We all know that they could make it through this on their own but it’s been a lot easier to share the burden. Please keep up the wonderful comments. Steve & Ellen will read them whenever they can find the time, and the rest of the family enjoys them immensely.
As for me, I am greatful for this opportunity to help. So many people have helped me through the years. I love my brother very much as I do the rest of my family (extended or not). I would love to hear from you all and pass on my love on to Steve & Ellen personally, as I am lucky to be here.
Anthony
March 16th, 2006 at 10:27 pm e
I am one of Mindi Childs’ best friends and just heard about the accident. My brother, Mike Schlappi, was shot and paralyzed from the upper waist down. I’ve been so interested in your situation being able to somewhat relate. Mike and I grew up in Orem and Mike currently resides in Draper. As a well-known motivational speaker and long-time rehab recruiter for IHC I have seen him have such a positive influence in so many people’s lives. There is so much to live for and such an opportunity for you, regardless of the end result of this accident. I have seen my brother live a life full of productivity, happiness and reward and I know that you will do the same. Just keep a positive attitude; “Where there’s a ‘wheel’ there’s a way,” as my brother Mike would say. I just spoke with him and he would love to meet you if you’re interested. He’s your same age and most defintaely can relate. My prayers are with you and your family.
Collette
March 16th, 2006 at 10:46 pm e
Steven, Ellen and Family,
You have been in our prayers and our love in extended towards you all. It is quite humbling to see the photos. My thoughts of you both are always with a smile on your face. It is amazing how challenges strengthen us and unite us too. Thinking of you.
Love,
The Cox Family
March 17th, 2006 at 12:13 am e
Steve, Ellen, and Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. I think about where you are once you moved from Springwater Park area, and I left the good ole’ days at Stream International. Hang in there and I know that the Lord will hear and answer your prayers. Remember that the power of the priesthood is real. I remember some great talks Steve that you and I have had when we worked together.
Hang in there, and may the Lord strengthen you and your family.
Mike Walker & Family
March 17th, 2006 at 12:22 am e
Steve,
I just found out about the accident a few minutes ago. Hang in there and know that you and your family will be in our prayers and thoughts.
Love,
Stuart and the Campbell family
March 17th, 2006 at 8:44 am e
Hey Steve, it’s sure lonely around here without you. Just ain’t right to come to work and see your office dark. The whole gang—like all of Novell—really misses you. I did our CoP presentation and I hope it would have been to your satisfaction. Regardless, it just wasn’t the same without you being there.
I want you to know that Cindi and I are really praying for you, Ellen and the family. As soon as you can bear it, I’ll come and see you but until then hang in there bud.
By the way, if there is anything I can do for you… well you know what I mean and don’t hesitate asking.
Ty & Cindi Ellis
March 17th, 2006 at 10:01 am e
Steve, Ellen, and family –
I just don’t know what to say. I have sat here in shock the past couple of days as my mind keeps going over what has happened. Please know that many prayers have been said on your behalf by my family. We are all hoping for the best and know that whatever the outcome, your family is going to be blessed by this event.
I am thrilled to see the outpouring of love and support coming through this board. It’s good to see names from my youth. I was amazed to see the man that Anthony has become when I saw him at the hospital the other day! He was just a kid back in our San Jose days! And seeing pictures of Andrew and Natalie – wow! He is a miniature Steve! And she is just beautiful! It’s been so long since I’ve seen your family!
Hang in there and keep fighting! Trust in the Lord. Please let me know if I can be of any help at all! I am still here in Provo and will come visit when you are up for it.
March 17th, 2006 at 10:59 am e
Steve and Ellen and Family:
Know that we love you and you are in our constant prayers! One of the hardest things for us to do is not be with you and the rest of the ward family every sunday. Please let us know if we can do anything.
The wendels
March 17th, 2006 at 11:29 am e
Hello Townsend Family. I am sorry for what happened. Everyone in Sonora says hello and tell steven how much we have been praying for himandtell him much we love him. t2ul
Love
Jennifer Townsend
March 17th, 2006 at 12:42 pm e
I am retyping exactly what Summer Goodwin writes to Steven in a letter to him written on March 15th—Summer.
I was so shocked to hear what happened to you. I know you are all still shocked. Once you are our of the hospital, and home I think you will grow in many ways. Life is valuable and you will become stronger because of this. I’m so sorry this happened, and God knows it will hard with all of the changes, but you are strong and will overcome anything and that you are Happy. I know the severity of the accident and pray that you’re OK.
March 17th, 2006 at 4:25 pm e
I just wanted to let you know you are in my prayers. I hope you guys are doing okay. I have never had anything as life changing as you have. have strength and grow from the experience. not much i can do from here, but i will continue to pray. miracles do happen. ( i would know, my older brother had a near drowning accident and was gone until a blessing that brought him back.)
good luck!
March 17th, 2006 at 5:59 pm e
Heeeeey Steveeeeeeee! =8^) What are you trying to do, have a good excuse to grow you hair long?
I know you are fighter and have tons of will and inner strength. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Did Greg tell you of the power of Hard Rock? Yup, you and Greg were right all the time.
Ellen,
You are an amazing lady. I will call you and check on you when the phone calls start to quiet down. (Right now, I’m getting updates from Greg.)
Andrew,
Way to go! This is a great blog. Keep up the good work!
March 18th, 2006 at 9:11 am e
I just read through all the letters and notes people have left and have to say thanks Andrew (yes you are still Andrew to us just like I am Ricky) I now for me I keep thinking if I had of stayed with the rest of the guys maybe I could have stoped this after all I am the older brother and I know Daniel has gone through the same thought process. But then to hear Steven and yes he is Steven to us, already laying there saying maybe this is forcing to have a family get closer like a reunion. As far as daniel saying about what Steven said about Dad stay with me if you saw him then I would swear our Dad was laying there. Mike Merrill made the same comment to me. We all now he has always watched out for us. I know that right now while Steven is in surgery we all are thinking of him and Dad is with him and as you all know both are great men. See you saturday everyone in Utah….
Rick(y)
March 18th, 2006 at 9:34 am e
Steven & the Townsends. We wanted to let you know that you have been in our thoughts and prayers since the accident happened. We admire you and your family and the way you are facing this new challenge.
March 18th, 2006 at 9:50 am e
Hello Neighbors!
Just wanted to let you know you are ALL in our prayers. Be strong and trust in the Lord. He is always there for you.
March 18th, 2006 at 10:32 am e
Hi Steve and Ellen and family,
I just found out at rehersal today about the mishap. I was stunned. So I am glad I have a way to communicate with you all. I have always looked up to you guys. You have a great family. I know you can pull through this. Especially with help from Heavenly Father and all the other people who love you. And I can tell there are A LOT of people who love you!
Steve, kudos for being so positive. You are awesome! If I was better at telling jokes I’d write one for ya. Do they let you listen to music at the hospital? You are a hero to me. Ellen you too. Hope you can recover soon too. And you kids. Way to go! You are heroes every one!
I’m sure alot of people are helping, but here’s one more hand if you need it. You all will be in our family’s prayers. Keep helping and loving each other and let this experience bring you closer together than ever. I know it’s made me take a step back and see things differently. May God bless you all and help you through this.
Love,
Jessica Sellers
March 18th, 2006 at 12:28 pm e
Just finished reading the messages that everyone has posted and am greatful for all the support Steven and his family are getting. In particular, the notes from Daniel and Ricky about our father-Danny Ray. It was my first thought that night when I happened to call the Townsend house in Utah to see how things were going and talked to Ellen’s sister about the accident. I knew right away that Danny, Norman, George, Red, Dale, Bobo and Ellinor were all there.
I was also interested in the comments from Daniel and Ricky about the accident. I have a few thoughts I would like to pass along to all. This April marks my 22nd year as a professional pilot/instructor. I work for the largest and most respected pilot training company in the world. Each week I teach pilots about how to avoid accidents. Aviation is the only profession that broadcasts to the entire world the details of how an aircraft crashed, right down to the last words of the pilot(s). These accidents are analyized in the news media, government and the profession itself. In my 22 years of accident analysis I have yet to read where the crew of an aircraft got up that day and said, “You know what, I think we’ll just crash the plane today.” Accident analysis is not a place the blaim on the pilots exersize either, or the even more wasteful—what if. Instead, accident analysis is focused on what do we learn from this and if I were in their situation, would I have done any different at that moment in time? The answer to the first part is simple: how will I change my attitude about myself and the way I do things from now on. The answer to the second part is equally simple: no, I would have done just as they did, but now I have an insight they did not. The entire point of reviewing aviation accidents is to not let the deaths or injuries of other people be in vain, but to give meaning to the human experience and trajedies that happen, despite our best intentions—that is why they are called accidents, not purposes.
When you invited me to come out and be with you all on the annual Townsend ride in Utah, no one intended or purposely set out to have an accident—you did not say, “Michael, by-the-way we are going to crash this time.” No, the intent was to be together as brothers one weekend out of the year and thus the intent was and is met, just in a fashion no one expected. So what have we learned from this?
The test of faith comes in many forms and we each answer the test in our own way; and the paradox is that those answers are also dependent on others around us.
Hope is what we as a family and our friends strive and fight for each and every day. Hope is that human quality that gives meaning and tangibility to faith, that makes it more than that which is not seen, but witnessed and felt in our souls—Dad really was there with not only Steven, but all of us.
But the true measure of all is Charity. That is what I see most in all of the e-mails to this great site of Andrew and Bob. Charity is the one thing that is not only an individual act, but can only be truelly effective when exercised by many to effect an outcome on the one or the few.
Thank you all for your faith, hope and charity to my brother and friend Steven and his wonderful family,
Michael
March 18th, 2006 at 4:02 pm e
hi there. we just got the phone call that steven is out of surgery. i hope as is well and that i know you will make a magnificent recovery. i believe in u steven. u are one of the most positive people i know. i admire u for that. best of wishes to u and the rest of the family.
We Love You,
Jennifer Townsend and family.
March 18th, 2006 at 8:22 pm e
We don’t know your family too well but, like many others, we have been praying for your family. We check the updates each day and pray for your peace and comfort.
I know Ellen from scouting and know what a go-getter she is! The only experience I’ve had with Steve is about 4 or 5 years ago, he had a flat tire on his bike. I think he had ridden to school with one of his kids. I felt sorry for him so I gave him a ride home! When I found out he was Ellen’s husband I knew he must be a great guy!
So, we will continue to pray for you and your family!
Love,
James, Joanie, Jessica, Jacob, Daniel, Nathan, Benjamin & Becca Rich
(Hillcrest 3rd Ward)
March 19th, 2006 at 11:48 am e
Steve and family,
We were so sorry to hear about the accident. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and will continue to be throughout your time of trial. We pray the Lord will bless you and your family with His spirit and a feeling of peace and comfort that He is mindful of you and your situation. I’m reminded of my favorite quote from the Prophet Josesph Smith: With each wave of adversity I’m wafted closer to Deity. If you need any help at all please let us know. Hang in there, brother.
March 19th, 2006 at 1:05 pm e
Steve and Ellen,
Your incident has reached the southeast. The Hirchaks informed us of your accident. We are so sorry to hear about the tragedy. Our prayers are with you both and your family. We will be checking daily on your progress. Be strong! We are grateful that Steve lived through the accident!
Wade & Cyndi
March 19th, 2006 at 4:10 pm e
Townsend Family,
I am a friend of your grandmother Beatrice Aikman in Santa Clara, CA. She keeps me current with the happenings of her family. She is so proud of all of you. I see where you all get your strength and zest for life. I remember how happy she was at Christmas time when Steve and family came to visit her and toured San Francisco. How happy she was!! She makes sure I see the pictures of her beautiful family.
Miss Beatrice and I talk everyday, and I will join her in the West Coast support group.
My hugs and prayers go out to all of you.
March 19th, 2006 at 6:10 pm e
My Dearest Steven,
I want you to know every minute of every day I’m with you. it grieves me that i had to go home to tend to the other eight children. Ricky gives me the updates as the come as well as ellen’s mother. i appreciate any news i can get so much. When i received the news about the accident all i could do is think that i have to get out of here NOW! the missionaries were here when i got the call about the accident. Then by a miracle Cathy and Larry Johnson stopped by to bring the children a bucket of popcorn. They are our home teachers. As i tried to think of how i would go and whom could take care of eight kids they began to help me think calling all over the place. steven wewere in the middle of a storm watch with two feet of snow and more to come. we all knew getting out of here was going to be difficult. home teachers have a special gift they can almost do anything. i left at 5 in the morning with them driving in horrible conditions. Their son mike picked me up half way i made to oakland on time. valerie left everything to come here to take care of the kids. The tow foster children had to leave to an emergency home while i was gone. I know your father is with you and i your mother will always be there with you no matter what. steven when times of hugh stress come along it brings change in alot of us. sometimes we don’t want to except change but it is for our own good. well i have had to change real fast in two ways. i had to get one of the awful cell phones and when i was on the plane a lady helped me figure it out. and some of your nurses would help me answer the phone. i now know how to answer and dial cell phone. i now have a laptop. yesterday jennifer hooked it up to the internet so that we all could read about your updates. and as well as me writing this letter to you. i love you. that alone is a miracle. Thank you andrew for making this webpage for everyone. i read all the wonderful notes from people it was so helpful to hear from so many people that love you, your kids, and your wife. you are so lucky in so many ways. I was able to talk to dr. clyne today. i told you and your family about him and how is went through alot of the stuff you are going through right now. he was very comforting, as well as clair ann. she has always been there steven hasn’t she. now the operation is over and we all take the next step you are such a wonderful son, always there for others and now others get chance to be there for you.
I love you so much
Love,
MOM
March 19th, 2006 at 8:32 pm e
Dear Townsend Family
I would like to express my sympathies to you all, and wish good luck in the future. I heard about the accident from Trevor and remembered that you had come to see my show here in Jackson Hole last year. I thank you for that. God willing you will be able to see our show again this year.
I wish you all the best, and from all of us here at the Jackson Hole Playhouse, get well soon.
Thinking of You
Jeffrey Whitlock
March 20th, 2006 at 12:56 pm e
I am sending this message from Miss Beatrice:
Dear Grandson Steven,
There are no words within me to tell you how I feel for you.
Courage! Courage! Courage!
You have never lacked these many fine qualities: they are consideration, campassion and competence.
Healing hands and helping hands are reaching out from all of us that have been touched by your presence and character.
I seem to sence that I can touch your cheek and let you know my love and care is wrapped around your shoulders.
Communication between us is always open, caring and appreciated.
I am beside you in heart and soul all the way.
Your Gram
March 20th, 2006 at 1:23 pm e
Dear Steven,
Here I am again! Just to let you know how much you have been on my mind, each and every day since I heard of the accident one week ago today. It has been a long week on one hand but a very short one on the other. I keep in touch with your mom to see that she is okay and just to talk with her as another source of support. When you went into surgery on Saturday, you were on my mind every minute of the day and through Sunday until I could speak to your mom and see if you were okay. I am so grateful to your son and your family or friends who are keeping us updated on your condition. It gives us hope and strength to learn of every little step oif improvement you are experiencing. I have known you since you were just a little guy. Daniel was born the day before Jennifer and your mom and I were in the hospital together. Your dad was my counselor over me when I was the Primary President, and we worked closely together. He was there for me when my baby was born—our little one who died—and your dad came to the hospital at 3:30 a.m. in the morning to give our son a name and a blessing before he passed away. I was there with your mom and your family when Danny was near the end of his life. I sang “I am a child of God” to him when we didn’t think he recognized us. When I finished he responded by squeezing my finger. I loved your dad. He was a wonderful man, and as I read of his closeness to you at the time of your accident and since, I shed tears of joy for having known him, and I feel of his sweet spirit as Daniel and Rick express their knowledge of his influence at this time, through the veil. You remind me so much of your father. You have the same strength of spirit and love for others as he did. Your mom suffered so much when your dad left this earth. That was 20 years ago. Yet, now, it seems like only a moment in time. I have lost my parents but I feel of their strngth and spirit so much since in so many experiences of my life.
So, Steven, as you are there healing from this experience, feel the power of your father through the veil. Let his loving warmth and spirit give you the strength and determination to fight and struggle. Sometimes these experiences happen to the strongest of spirits so that the weakest of spirits may grab hold of hope, and through your example of courage, discipline, and long-suffering, determine to shed their weaknesses and concentrate on you, the loved one, who needs their help and support to bring you back to health.
I want you to get better. I want you to be able to use your talents, spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually, to continue to touch the lives of others. Isn’t it amazing that all those things that you are so talented in have not been taken from you? Your kindness, love, spirit, caring, and devotion are all intact. You come from very gifted and talented parents, and you have within you the qualities of both your mother and father to such an extent that your spirit and your inner talents can only be magnified and enlarged by that which you have experienced. I have no doubt that you will make the best out of whatever you have been dealt, and as you gain strength and understanding as to what you must do, you will do it with humility, compassion, love, and commitment.
I love your family. They are like family to our family. We have shared so much. I love your mom and your siblings. I am here to help your mom, on this end, in any way that I can.
We will keep praying for you. We will have the conviction in our hears that the Lord loves you, will turn your weaknesses into your strengths, and will walk by your side throughout this challenging event.
Much love to you, Steven, and to your family and extended family,
Clair Ann
March 20th, 2006 at 2:41 pm e
Dear Townsend Family
Thank you for this website. I’m sure you know that many , many people love and care about you and this website helps us stay connected to you and your family and your progress. And we rejoice in your progress! As I put your name on the temple prayer rolls last week, and again just this past Saturday, I realized that probably many others were doing the very same thing as me—and probably in several different temples around the country as well. I have a personal testimony of the power of temple worship and of the power of those united, sacred prayers being offered many times a day by so many righteous faithful members. I hope all of your family feels strength and comfort and the love of our Father in Heaven, who has power to make all things whole again.
I know there are many more” mountains” for Steve to climb—he has prepared himself spiritually as well as physically for the task. Your whole family is already meeting the challenge in a heroic way. We love and admire your example of strength and courage. We know challenges still lie ahead—but our family, united with the whole ward family, is anxious and ready to help in every way.
We love your family
Greg and Karen Schaack and family
March 20th, 2006 at 4:09 pm e
All of us here at Wasatch School are thinking of you, Steve, and praying for your family. We do not know you, but know and love Kathy Spencer dearly and always want happiness for her and her family. Thanks, Andrew, for the blog. It has kept us all informed. Hang in there!
March 20th, 2006 at 5:11 pm e
Steven and Family,
I am glad to hear that your surgery went well. We have been praying for you from the moment it all happened and will continue to do so. I know that with the many family and friends you have for support that you will come out of this stronger than ever. Daniel and I have had a lot of time to discuss all that has happened and I know that you have what it takes to persevere. You have a lot of people pulling for you – just today I talked to 6 people who are all asking about you and continue to pray for you.
May God continue to watch over you and your family,
Gomez and Family
March 20th, 2006 at 11:18 pm e
This is Andrew,
Thank you all for all your help. I know as time
wears on, and more and more people become less
interested in the slow non-CSI movement of REAL
LIFE, support for my family will grow thin. Thank
you all for being so zealous, and thank you for
staying with us for a week and a half! Please keep
us in your prayers, and continue with asking us
how you can help. We will proably tell you that
we are fine for now, but there will be an
oportunity to serve if you want it. I know that my
streangth is almost out, and the preasure of this, and
schooling, and work, and trying to be the
good-example-big-brother is starting to get to me. I finaly had a break down today, and am so greatful for
the warmth that you all give in your words,
thoughts and actions. Thank you so much for everything!
May God be with you, and may Dad continue to grow
healthy so that he can be with us again, a “new”
man.
-Andrew
March 21st, 2006 at 1:11 am e
Dear Steve & Ellen—
When Russ, three-month-old Whitney, and I moved to Springwater Park 10 and a half years ago, it was Steve who gathered the Elders together and helped move us in. The last time I remember seeing the two of you was at a Passover Seder hosted by Victor Ludlow at BYU a few years ago.
I know there’s little I can do or say right now, so I’ll share a couple of scriptures that might be comforting to you.
“. . . for I will go before your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up.” D&C 84:88
“I will encircle thee in the arms of my love.” D&C 6:20
Love, Teresa DeSpain
March 21st, 2006 at 7:36 am e
Andrew,
You know where I live – I am almost always home – the door bell is really loud – If you ever need to talk – laugh – cry or just remember and do not want to do it alone – come over. Bro. wendel
Steve, Ellen and family – all of you – we are two ‘older’ people with not muc going on most times – let us know if we can help out with anything!
You are all constantly in our prayers and remember that none of us are ever alone not even when we want to be!
March 21st, 2006 at 12:06 pm e
march 21,2006
dearest ones,
i have been going through my memories to try to find some comfort for you and myself, as to why we have to go through another difficult task.
steven a passage from a letter your father had written to norman upon his graduation:” choose, do and accomplish. you have a solid heritage, your mother and father and your grandparents. they are all hard working people. honor them, honor yourself prepare for the future and tomorrow.7/30/77”
i have just re read the letters that my brother had written to me over the years, to try and find some reasonable explanation for what we have been asked to do.
i guess danny has been unable to convince me that this is a necessary to our becoming better people.
at this point in time i am unable to agree with the powers that be.
the past 2 years has been very difficult for our family. my mother, your grandmother and great grandmother. has really taken this hard. i have not seen her with such heart ache, as when my brother was ill and finally his passing.
then as always , we are strong and dedicated people and this will make us all stronger
steven i have no doubt, that you will do your utmost to be as strong and as healthy as possible. i know you will work hard to accomplish all that is available for you and your family.
your father is with you at all times, we do talk ocassionaly,as his strength and wisdom are needed by myself as well as his children.
when i first heard of the accident, a piture flashed in my mind instantly of danny on the side of a hill bending over with his arms around you . it was only momentary, but i did see him with you.
andrew, you have been such a source of strengh to your family and so helpful to all of us out here, wanting to be of use. by your work we feel as tho we are involved in what is going on. thank you so much.
i don’t know if you realize it or not but your father was 18 years old when he had to deal with the loss of his father.
it seems as tho to say that we are here for you and your family, has be spoken , i don’t really belive it is has to be stated, as you know we have always been behind our family, with whatever we can do to help will be done.
who ever needs help will get it, thats what familys are.
i do not have the strength of your religion to lean on ,but i do have the all mighty with me at all times.
boy has he been needed lately.
this has been really hard to do, thru the tears i have a tough time seeing the keyboard.
steven you can do. i believe this with all my soul.
love to all
marylin
March 21st, 2006 at 2:18 pm e
Steven,
I know you are recovering well. You have been and still are an inspriation to many. I believe that you still have a bright future. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I was shocked to find out about this on Friday, but I know you will pass this trial. I know that the faith and prayers on your behalf will support you. You are lucky to have your father with you. I can’t think of a better man and I know you have been following in his example. Godspeed.
Kevin Mitchell
March 21st, 2006 at 7:39 pm e
Steve,
I cannot begin to tell you just how sorry I am that this has happened to you! I’m with Debbie in that I’ve been in shock since I heard the news last week. Please know that everyone in my family from my mom in CA to my relatives in UT are sending prayers your way.
I’m pleased that Debbie is able to visit you on all our behalf! It’s nice to have updates on your condition from her as well as being able to log onto this website that your son is updating. We can never have too much information. It’s great to be able to see pictures as well!
You obviously have an amazing family and have been truly blessed!
I know that you will come through this with flying colors and continue to be an amazing strength and support for your family! I agree with Daniel (in typical Daniel form as I remember), that I’m stoked to see what you do with this new chapter in your life!
I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in our daily thoughts and prayers!
All our love,
Sally and Family
March 21st, 2006 at 7:51 pm e
Steve… I just heard the news this morning on my way to the temple (where I added your name to the prayer roll—you are probably there 300 times already). I wish I’d found out sooner, so I could have been praying along with everyone else during the past ten days. You have been on my mind every minute since hearing the news.
I keep having flashbacks of the years we worked together – remember going to Ricardos with Ed for lunch? I’ll suddenly remember some comment you made years ago… like how ‘athletic’ I looked running through the parking lot while very pregnant . You were always upbeat, making people laugh, always lifting others. Haven’t changed much, have you?
Ellen… You are a champion. I will never forget when I left Novell to stay home with the kids, you left me a treat and a note “welcome to the world of soap operas and bon bons.” I still have the note—having someone recognize my life change really made my day. Then there were the times we spent at Girl Scout camps – you were always serving tirelessly and making others smile.
Kids… Andrew – awesome blog… please keep us updated and include any ideas for ways we can help. Natalie – I remember you as a Girl Scout… suddenly you’ve grown into a beautiful young lady. I’m sure you are a huge help to your mom. Erika says hi! Adam, Nicole & Abbie – I wish I could hug you all. Hang in there and know that there is much love being focused on your family!
I’m interested in helping any way I can…
Hugs to all,
Cindee Nielsen
March 21st, 2006 at 8:14 pm e
Andrew,
First of all, thanks for the time and effort to build and maintain this site. It really does help people connect with you and your family that is not possible any other way. Thank you.
Also, I don’t know you, but I know your dad and therefore believe you must be a pretty great guy. Your dad, Steve, and I went to elementary school together for many years (kindergarten/first grade through sixth grade). Many memories. Ask him about Cardboard Hill (if you don’t already know the stories).
Andrew—I lost my mom to cancer when I was 16 years old. Her funeral was on her 40th birthday (imagine that!) I have an idea of some of the complex emotions you’re going through. Not only do you have to deal with this trauma, but you have to maintain a ‘real life’ schedule of school, etc. Tough to balance it all, I’m sure.
My advice to you is to communicate to those around you (teachers, friends, etc.) so they know what’s going on and they can be a support to you. They’ll give you a lot of leeway. But they can’t help/understand if you don’t let ‘em know what’s going on (externally with your family, and internally as you deal with all of your pressures, emotions, etc.)
I would also suggest that you have a way to ‘escape’ when you need it. My escape was reading a bunch of books. It took me to other places that weren’t so heavy. And I got smarter in the process
Anyway, please do keep us posted. You are an astute observer to know that—though interest and concern are strong—with so many things for each person to pay attention to in life, the concentration of dialog will subside to a certain degree. And that’s OK. It’s as it should be. Life events ebb and flow. Hopefully there will be joyous events that people can focus on at times as well (like your future wedding—whenever that will be!) One suggestion might be to, when the website postings calm down, to send a distribution email to all submitters at key milestones or to simply alert people to developments on the website that tell the next chapter of the story.
I’ll be in Utah in June and look forward to visiting with your dad. I’d like to meet you as well if schedules/routines allow. Take care—Todd
March 22nd, 2006 at 12:26 am e
Steven-
My thoughts and heart have been with you since Daniel called me with the news of your successful flight with a rough landing. I have thought of you often even before this chapter opened. I was thinking tonight about all the good times we had in the clubhouse/fort in your old back yard. Even at that young age you were intelligent and cultured, even fashioning ethnic sand pictures with the aid of only a cast-iron skillet and twigs (the flat faces were excellent!!). I also fondly recall a rope and pulley ride you constructed across the back yard, which provided hours of fun, and a few contusions as well. Kick on the hill, mud football, fun with gas heat, and even building small firecrackers with nothing more than black powder, pen caps, duct tape, superglue, timed fuse, and good old yankee ingenuity coupled with the sheer will to have a good time- I feel I could type for hours about all the fun things we used to do, but not now, because my fingers are starting to cramp horribly (I will save other stories for future installments!!).
Steven, I hope you know you are a brother to me, and I always will feel a kinship with you. I admire you for who you are and who you are becoming. I hope to laugh and reminisce with you again soon. You gave me a great send-off on my mission, and you are now giving me another send-off to lengthen my stride and increase my faith in Christ. My family and I all pray for you and have faith that you will heal beyond any doctors expectations. I’ll write again soon. Your kid brother from another mother,
Andy
March 22nd, 2006 at 5:35 pm e
Steven,
I was so sorry to hear of your accident but I knew without a shadow of a doubt that your loving family would surround you and help you pick up the pieces. I remember you as such a great fun kid. You reminded me so much of your dad. I loved Danny. He was such a good friend to my family and such a wonderful example of the way one should live their life. Your Mom is such a fabulous woman. I have always admired her and love her. Your family has always been a special family to me. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family. Your positive attitude will help the Lord to perform miracles in your life. I know that the Lord and your Dad will stay close to your through the healing process. All of my children, Eron, Adam, Tiffany, Amber, John, Heather & Jared wish you well and want you to know that you are in our prayers. All my love.
Phemia Whitefield
March 22nd, 2006 at 8:55 pm e
Dear Andrew (Townsend):
I read your note and felt the challenges that you must be feeling emotionally. I am really glad that Todd addressed his comments to you. I want to thank you, also, for all of the hard work that you are expending to keep this web site going. It is of as much comfort to all of us out here as the comments are to your family from us. At least, that is how I feel. Your father is very important to us, and you are rendering a very unselfish service by so willing updating us in such an informative fashion. Please keep it up! It gives us as much hope to hear of your family and your dad’s progress as I am sure our letters uplift you. I don’t know if these words will lighten the burden of your sorrows and grief but your efforts mean so much to me. I hope I speak for many others. I have not met your family but as I have expressed, your dad and his mom and dad and siblings mean the world to my family and me. I will pray for you, your mom, and your siblings just like I do for your dad. Hang in there and know that your kindness and service to us through this web site is so very valuable to the people who love your dad. Perhaps there will be friends of yours who could assist you in some way so that you won’t be on overload. I love reading all the notes to your family. It connects all of us in such a beautiful way, and we all bond together in the love we share for one another. Just think what a terrific catalyst you are in bringing this forum of love and joy to all who care so much for your dad. I hope that it brings peace to your family and comforts them. Thank you so much. Love, Clair Ann Rasmussen, friend of you dad and your grandma Vicky
March 22nd, 2006 at 10:37 pm e
Hi Steven Ricky is doing the typing today and I will try later. I am glad Ricky is coming andI will follow on wednesday. Its so helpful reading all these letters. I have the best things to say. Been thinking about Adm and the kids and all the things they are going to get to learn along with you and what you will be able to teach them. We all have adventures in life some are interesting dangerous fun and exciting. Some try and can awaken or shake our soul. As for me going through my adventures in my life I know anything is possiable and can be overcome, some time with pain and sometimes with laughter. I get this adoption magazine, that tella us about movies and books to help with the kids. This movie is called Emanuels Gift and a book called No One Is Perfect. about a kid tha has the same can do attitude as you have but also keeping the humble attitude that you also posess as they go through this new chapter or journey in life. After we all get our rutines and look back as a blessing and growing time like I heard you had said to bring us together and the new adventures this is going to bring to you and in turn those adventure you will transfer or bless us with, you have shown the true stength and courouge that has always been the example to others. You will maybe you can think of this as college all over again but this time you will be teaching as much as learning. Just like those years at BYU you get tired frustrated and then in the end it was and is worth the lost sleep and test that dont make sense at the time but at some point it all clicks and you say WOW. I know tis answer or I DID IT. Just like the little engine that could accept I know your the engine that says I know I can. Well this isnt just from me Ricky added some of his sayings or thoughts, which you probably realized long before we did. I guess it takes more then one person to write a letter just like it takes more then one person to be a family. You will see Ricky saturday and me wednesday. Ok we all think about and pray for youand the family. Love Mom and Ricky and all the kids…
March 23rd, 2006 at 11:34 am e
Hi Steven:
You probably don’t know me. I grew up with Rick. I heard about your accident last week and you’ve been in my thoughts and prayers ever since. I’ve been keeping an eye on this website to monitor your progress. I do a lot of dirt bike and street bike riding. I ride my sport quad in the sand dunes too. I do enough of this kind of thing to know that accidents like yours can happen to anyone.
You’ve got a great family around you and they will always be there for you. Keep up the fight.
March 23rd, 2006 at 1:27 pm e
Hey Steven, I almost wrote hey boulder, if you remember that. OOPS I did write it. Just wanted to tell you I am looking forward to seeing you again this weekend. We have alot to talk about even though you know I am not much of a talker. I do have alot of things to say and plans to make with you daniel and I. We had talked about all of us working together and looks like we are going to. I keep thinking of all the things we can do and build (its the Tim the tool man thing) more power. Think of all the possibilities, well we’ll talk about that. Tyler, Sandra and Alan had a great time getting to be around you and your family and relly liked Temple Square. Well just wanted to let you know I am thinkin about you and see you saturday….Remember my nick name growing up?
Rick
March 23rd, 2006 at 6:19 pm e
Our thoughts and Prayers are with you at this difficult time. We love you all so much and are thankful for the kind spirit you bring upon us and this ward! We hope that things progress and that things will eventually turn out.
With Love,
The Duckworth’s
March 23rd, 2006 at 7:02 pm e
Steven’s nick-name was “Flappin Tongue” because he always had his tongue stickin out when he was determined to do something! That was of course, after we pried the pacifier out of his mouth! Ricky, your nickname was “thunder-butt” because you were so skinny – when you sat on someone’s lap they would be shocked at the bones! or maybe you were thunder butt – because of “gas”
.
The pictures on the website are remarkable – thank you andrew! I will be out for a visit soon, but I am juggling my constant travel (Steven knows what I’m talking about, because he did the same – right Steven!) I’m juggling between the travel and the girls schedule with me or with Dave. I am thinking about you and want you to know that I do care and love you. I look at those pictures and go “Gosh, Steven, if anyone can do this and do it well, it’s Steven aka “flappin tongue” or aka Boulder.
March 23rd, 2006 at 10:00 pm e
Well Steven Ricky was called “Poodle” because he had alot of curly hair. Steven you were called “Boulder” because you had a big round head. Well, Steven I’ll tell you what’s going on here. Nick and Frank are both 11 years old, were in their first down-hill ski tournament at Dodge Ridge. Their going skiing tomorrow the 24th again with the home-school. They get alot of ski time because of so much snow. Frankie came in second in the down-hill sloem. Nick fell in the second race and therefore his time was too slow to place. Nick is a snowboarder, and Frankie is a skiier, and as for me I just sit and watch them come flying down the slopes. All three of the 11 year olds are quite athletic boys. They are very good in Hockey, Skiing, snowboarding. I am thankful every day that I live in such an area for so many outdoor sports and to look at the constant beauty surrounding as you know. I had to go to Tyler’s (foster child) district attorney today. He wants me to adopt him. They are threatening to send him off to Utah with people he doesn’t even know. He is an amazing child. You know Steven that he is an amazing loving helpful child. He just vacuumed the kitchen rugs. He is always vacuuming. So I gave him the vacuum for his own. Many people from church are calling me now since the word got out about your accident. They don’t know you, but they send their love and knowing that your from a strong family, so you most be strong. It was finally nice and sunny today after the biggest snow storm we’ve ever seen or been in. Boy this computer keeps cutting ot because we have dial up and we are going to have to end before Jennifer goes CRAZY like she already hasn’t. We pray for you as a family every night, as well as myself praying for you alnight because I do not sleep very well.
GOOD NIGHT STEVEN!
p.s.
Today was Debbie and Michael’s Birthday. I sent alot of dad’d, his, and my stuff that is very old now and he was absolutly thrilled because you see Steven we’re getting preeeetttttyyyy daaarrrrnnn OLD!
LOVE,
MOM
p.s.s
Typed by Jennifer. I still can’t hack it!
March 23rd, 2006 at 10:00 pm e
Well Steven Ricky was called “Poodle” because he had alot of curly hair. Steven you were called “Boulder” because you had a big round head. Well, Steven I’ll tell you what’s going on here. Nick and Frank are both 11 years old, were in their first down-hill ski tournament at Dodge Ridge. Their going skiing tomorrow the 24th again with the home-school. They get alot of ski time because of so much snow. Frankie came in second in the down-hill sloem. Nick fell in the second race and therefore his time was too slow to place. Nick is a snowboarder, and Frankie is a skiier, and as for me I just sit and watch them come flying down the slopes. All three of the 11 year olds are quite athletic boys. They are very good in Hockey, Skiing, snowboarding. I am thankful every day that I live in such an area for so many outdoor sports and to look at the constant beauty surrounding as you know. I had to go to Tyler’s (foster child) district attorney today. He wants me to adopt him. They are threatening to send him off to Utah with people he doesn’t even know. He is an amazing child. You know Steven that he is an amazing loving helpful child. He just vacuumed the kitchen rugs. He is always vacuuming. So I gave him the vacuum for his own. Many people from church are calling me now since the word got out about your accident. They don’t know you, but they send their love and knowing that your from a strong family, so you most be strong. It was finally nice and sunny today after the biggest snow storm we’ve ever seen or been in. Boy this computer keeps cutting ot because we have dial up and we are going to have to end before Jennifer goes CRAZY like she already hasn’t. We pray for you as a family every night, as well as myself praying for you alnight because I do not sleep very well.
GOOD NIGHT STEVEN!
p.s.
Today was Debbie and Michael’s Birthday. I sent alot of dad’d, his, and my stuff that is very old now and he was absolutly thrilled because you see Steven we’re getting preeeetttttyyyy daaarrrrnnn OLD!
LOVE,
MOM
p.s.s
Typed by Jennifer. I still can’t hack it!
March 24th, 2006 at 11:36 am e
Hi Steven, I’m still in shock and have had you in my thoughts constantly since I learned about your accident!! This is so wonderful having this sight! Vicky, you will soon be typing away, don’t worry! I have loved reading all the wonderful thoughts from all your siblings, mom, aunt and cousins, and friends that I remember as well. What a wonderful family, and so many that love you and your family. My tears flow as I type but that is nothing new. You are a wonderful young man, I say young because its us who are now getting old, and you will get through this you have excellant jeans
!! All the comments from family have taken me back as well. Steven you have always reminded me so much of your father too, your sweet patient strength and faith. All the faith and prayers in your behalf from everyone and all those that love and care about you, that are there but not seen, and the Lords love and comfort, will help get you through this. Remember how many of your grandmothers, great grandmothers, great great aunts were nurses!! I’m sure their checken things out for you. Your cousin Brandon will be graduating in May with an engineering degree and he still teaches and plays the guitar, he sends his love, You two will have to jam sometime! Remember a long time ago we were talking about how computer programs need to be written in housewife language! You told me then that they were actually working on it
It is a lot easier for me to understand now! I still want to use my computer laying down though, thats my favorite position for reading! Our prayers continue to be for you and for Ellen and your children and your whole family. All our love, Aunt Sherry and Uncle Jim
March 24th, 2006 at 12:15 pm e
Steven,
I just learned of your accident today. I know Amber will be writing a blog to you. I am sorry to hear of your accident and the impact is now has upon your life. It was not to long ago that I was given the news that I had cancer. I thought of your father at that time, as he now thinks of you in Heaven. Steven he is watching over you as is the savior, I testify of this, for I know it to be true.
You will be touch many times in the next few months by the touch of the Master, you will know of his love as will your family.
Only the bravest of spirits are tested to the full capacity in this life. They are pushed to the forefront so that others might see the Light of Christ in them. Steven you are such a spirit.
I know this is a tough time, but endure to the end, keep the faith, for others are watching your courageous battle and praying for your success both on this side, and the other side of the veil.
Steven have your wonderful wife Ellen read your patriarchcial Blessing to you. In there will be the things you now need to complete you earthly mission.
Steven you have 24 young men from your Priest Quorum that will serve Missions and testify of your courageous story and many will join the Church because of you. God has a plan for each of us and your is just beginning.
Steven if there is anything I can do for you or your family say the word and I will make it happen.
I love you Buddy God Speed,
Kirk Davis
March 24th, 2006 at 2:01 pm e
Steven, Ellen and kids,
I love this website! Thank you Andrew.
Thank you so much for letting me be there for Steven at the hospital. Steven and I feel like we have a much deeper bond in our brother/sister relationship. I felt so good to be able to help. Steven, your spirit is amazing. I am so proud of you. There were times just before the surgery when you chose the more painful route to prepare your lungs for the surgery. On Friday before the surgery, Steven said “Lisa, I want to be proactive before this surgery” I went and got the Resperitory therapist and the doctor and Steven told them his plan to be a s strong as possible. They were amazed that someone in so much pain would be so in control of the situation. Your amazing brother! I love you so much. Your going to do great in the Rehab. program.
Ellen, I am so proud of you too! Friday night before the surgery you took matters into your own hands and worked nicely with the nurses to make Steven have the best night possible. Way to go!
We had some funny times too! Stevens friend Greg, is alot of fun. We were trying to not have Steven laugh because it hurt, but he is a funny guy!
Much love to all, Love, Big sis, Lisa
March 24th, 2006 at 2:26 pm e
Hi Steve,
) , so I am envying all the love you have around you. And…..you all seem to like eachother! Amazing! Now I know why you are so great. You come from great people. It doesn’t hurt to have a great wife, too, right Ellen?! 
and I want you all to know that whenever you want to bond with my dysfunctional family and eat junk food to make you feel better, you’re welcome anytime. I’ve done my fair share of griping and complaining during my painful life experiences, so I need to make up some ground and listen to someone else’s 
Is that enough smiley faces, yet?!
I hope I’m not invading, but I really love reading the e-mails your family sends. I was an only child (I know I know….Now you can see why I’m the way I am!
Anyway, I read about Andrew’s sad day last week (which happened to be the day I called – hopefully no coincidence!
I know I’m not good at calling back about home teaching appointments, but I am there for anything else you guys need
Love You Guys,
Karen Galloway
March 24th, 2006 at 5:27 pm e
Dear Ellen,
I just heard today about the tragic event that has happened. I am deeply and truly sorry for the impact that this has had on not only your life but your wonderful husband, Steven and your loving family. I will keep a candle lit for you Steven. You and I have not had the opportunity to have met but I had the priviledge of working with Ellen this summer at the Jamboree. Ellen is a very strong woman and she will help you through this time as well into the next chapter of your lives together. God will continue to provide for all of you in this time! I will keep you all in my prayers. I know New York/East Coast seem so very far away but in a time of need it is like all things right around the corner. Ellen, I don’t know what I can do….but please call on me if you are in need of anything. If you just want a voice on the other end of the phone, I’ll be there, I promise!
Andrew, You have done a wonderful job during very trying times and I commend you for your hard work!
My love and continued prayers for you all!
Julia “Jules” McCord
Wappingers Falls, New York
914-475-6990
March 24th, 2006 at 9:33 pm e
Steven
Just heard from mom that you were moved to re-hab today, wow what a triumph for you.
i thought it would be several more days. that is terrific.
Now comes the grunt work, in more ways than one.
mom seems to be doing better, I really think it is because you are keeping her informed.
The lady across the street from mom, Bev, has a computer and she has been kind enough to print out the web sight for her and almost every day she brings it over for her to read.
I could do it but then it has to be mailed and that takes time and she really needs to know how things are progressing with you all. so this is great info.
we are still totally involved in your recovery.
Just returned from the emergency room with Al. He stumbled over his own feet in the parking lot of costco around noon today and landed on his face.
Had a nose bleed and a small cut on his nose. A big scratch on his glasses.
4 hours later the nose is still bleeding,so deceided to take him to emergency.
they cauterized inside his nose and finally got it stopped
I was feeling so unsure about taking him in for a nose bleed, but the dr. said that was the right thing to do, a nose that keeps bleeding for 6 hours ,by that time, needs to be taken care of. They did seem him awfully fast.
He is fine now, as long as he doesn’t undo it.
our love and strenghth have been sent to you.
Al Marylin, Uncle and Aunt
March 25th, 2006 at 12:24 am e
Hi Steven and all of the Townsend family,
I grew up in San Jose and was friends with your sister Valerie and brother Rick (y). You were just “a little kid” back then,who used to run all over the church trying to be w/ the big kids…. how time does fly. I doubt you remember me. I was home last weekend for my moms homecoming from her mission when I heard about your accident as Ray Anderson gave the opening prayer and asked for your speedy recovery. I too have been praying for the same for you. Just 3 months ago I got that dreaded phone call in the middle of the night that relayed my son had been in an auto accident and was seriously injured. He suffered a severe brain injury and spent 19 days in ICU and then had to be sent to a Rehabilitation Hospital in Santa Clara for a while. This injury has changed me in so many ways and my family as well. It’s hard to believe so much good can come from what can be so hard and painful. I know what your family is going through, and it’s through avenues like this that your son has developed, that support and strenghth can be given and received. We were able to use a site called caringbridge that did the same thing. Keep reading the notes, and encourage your wife and kids to continue as well because just as your boy said he was tired and burned out, someone will inevitably write just the thing he or they will need to hear. I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to just crawl in a hole and cry all day and someone would leave a note with just the right message at just the right moment. Like everything in life, this is just another part of the journey, and what is to come ????, who’s to know. But how cool is it to wonder and ponder about the future and what it holds due to this, for you and your family. You have an awesome family, one I have always respected and cared about and you’re so lucky to be so supported. My prayers are for you and them and hope you will continue to recover quickly.
Love Caralee
March 25th, 2006 at 9:27 pm e
Steve,
I only met you on a couple of occassions, but I knew I you were someone who loved his family and life in general. I wish you and your family the best.
Warmest regards,
Jan Newman
March 27th, 2006 at 12:03 am e
Dear Steven,
It is hard to believe that it is over two weeks since I heard about this accident affecting your life. One week since you got out of surgery. It seems you have amazing doctors. It is just incredible to read all of the things that they are doing for you, and what you are doing for them to move this rehab situation along. It takes a lot of internal strength to know that each thing you must do to achieve something you used to do without thinking will now be done with so much agony and pain attached. You almost dread doing anything because you know that the pain will be so intense. Much like our Savior in the garden—and yet He made choices that carried with them great pain and suffering.
Somehow, though, you make a deliberate effort to mentally prepare yourself to try even though pain is your constant companion. As you mentally strive to conquer that fear of pain, you will move that much closer to rising above the desire to submit and give up. Obviously, you have been blessed with a great ability to use your mind to bring your body to submission. That is the gift you must now exercise in getting your body to work for you, again, to the utmost point that you can attain.
I will pray for that gift to be yours each and every hour of each day. You will need to have the ability to face pain as your friend so that you can master skills that you need to have in order to recover. Don’t get discouraged. Try to think of words of hope and valor that will carry you through the challenging moments during therapy.
Like Kirk Adams said, who so eloquently stated in his blog, the words of hope concerning the influence of the Savior in our lives—He is our hope, our model, our source of spiritual strength. Kirk’s words really hit a spiritual element that is so essential at this time.
You also have such loving family and friends. What a blessed person to have so many who love and care for you. The reason for that is the fact that you are such a fine example to others and your gift to them is you. So, it is important to remember that you are still here, among so many that love you, and you will be a constant source of inspiration and an example of “enduring” that seems so hard to achieve sometimes. We all know pain in lesser or greater degrees; but when we feel pain, and cannot endure, it is important that we think upon someone whom we admire and love who may have gone through great trials of pain and suffering and still endured. You will be such an example to me, Steven. I suffer from constant pain, so much so that sometime, I don’t want to take the next step or do the next duty, but I know that I must because if I don’t, I might as well stop trying altogether.
Your spirit, on a daily basis, as evidenced in these blogs showcasing your progress, is making a profound impression on me. It is giving me the desire to keep on keeping on if you can—facing that next trial of pain and making the decision to push through it at any cost. I just want you to know that you are important and have a purpose in the lives of many people—my life being one of them.
Until next time, and I’ll put your name on the temple roll again tomorrow for two more weeks. Love, Clair Ann
March 27th, 2006 at 10:53 am e
Well to all those that have been reading this I will tell you that it has been awesome to be here, Saturday Steve got in his wheelchair twice for 30 minutes each time, the second time we went down the elevator and out the door and got some air another awesome moment. Yesterday got in the chair again and wheeled himself around for awhile. He has his positive attitude and is very dedicated to staying ahead in his progress. Today tried to get up but just didnt feel right so he got back in bed and right now he is working out with dumbells (no not me) real weights. He has alot of work to do and wants to do it all right now. Steve loves having visitors, so as you can imagine dosnt like to be alone. it was great to see Trevor and Kyle Durham and all that have visited while I have been here. I have alot of picture and took video of steve cruising around so we’ll see about getting some of that on here. Well I think we are going to play around for awhile. Rick
March 27th, 2006 at 7:37 pm e
Steve, Ellen and family,
Wow, what an incredible family and friends you have! I just finished reading everyone’s comments. Sad – yes, but extremely uplifting as well. Andrew you amaze me with your maturity in managing this site. Great job! Steven and Ellen, I miss your smiling faces in church. The two times I had to talk in your ward recently, I was really nervous, but it calmed my nerves to look out and see your smiling faces. I look forward to your return!
March 27th, 2006 at 8:19 pm e
Steven,
Was nice to talk to you on the phone Sunday night. Way to go on getting in your new convayence! Rick told me about the trip outside and sounds like that really got your spirits up. Now if was me a trip to see snow would have been a real bummer, as you know snow is the manifestation that Satan exists (looks pure and nice, but in reality it is miserable and horrible—especially to drive in). Also Rick said that you had a real meal—now that is a real lift up in the spirits. When I worked on the psych ward in that very hospital on the night shift, the nurses from the eating disorders unit would bring us some really nice eats—best in the hospital!
Anyhow, very nice to finally have a short conversation with you. Your determination is really wonderful and I am very proud of you and your family for the manner in which you are all adapting to the situation. As I mentioned, you will suprise yourself with what you will and are able to accomplish. As you know, I am a fanatical bike rider and this week I will turn over 2,000 miles on the odometer, not bad for 18 months. I try and ride about 50-70 miles in a week. This summer I am going for my first 50 mile one day ride and then 100 mile one day ride. I started riding to keep my immune system up and the other diseases in check. As a result, I am doing better than the doctors hoped for. Bike riding has allowed me to have a much higher pain threshold and better control. As you do your therapy to learn to ride your new convayence you will learn the same thing I did—you can do a lot more and put up with more than you ever thought. I started being barely able to do 1 mile a day three years ago. Now a short ride is 16-20 miles and takes about an hour and a half or less.
I know you and your family will be much strengthened by all this and meet some really wonderful people along the way. Everytime I go speak at a dyslexia convention I am amazed at how many people have done so much with their lives when others told them they would never succeed or that it would be too difficult to overcome or compensate for a disability. I am a stronger person as a result of the dyslexia.
Well, it is late and I am in the middle of learning two new airplanes to teach at work, so I better hit the books. Take care. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family always. The Townsend’s in Utah have once again set such a great example, I am truelly humbled by your examples of courage, faith and determination.
Michael
March 27th, 2006 at 8:24 pm e
Hey,
almost forgot! When I come out to Utah I will see if I can bring the bike and we can ‘ride’ together! Michael
March 29th, 2006 at 3:27 pm e
Ellen’s comment from March 27, 2006 @ 11:00 pm
“I am so very grateful, in a sad way, to discover how many people are truely affected by the life of one man, and I am sorry for not realizing this earlier in my relationship with him.”
Ellen, I know others feel this way: I hope you realize that the love and outpouring of support is evidence of how we have also been affected by YOU and your family. We include you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. Having known you and Steve for 15 years, I can’t tell you how many times I heard or saw evidence of what a great support you are to him. “Behind every great man is great woman.” That American Proverb certainly is true for both of you.
March 29th, 2006 at 4:46 pm e
Hi Steve and Ellen,
We read the updates frequently but have never done a public reply as yet. But we want to make sure that you know that we are here and we love and admire you.
The progress report was very encouraging today——Go Steve!
Let’s see…..I’m trying to think of a funny update to tell you and all I can think of is…..A couple nights ago Zack went to help a friend ask a girl to prom. They stole a porta-potty from a construction site and brought it to the girl’s yard and put a note on it that said, “If you have to go, will you go with me?”.
Then the boys hid in the bushes and watched as the family came out laughing and taking pictures. Then they loaded the potty up and brought it back to the construction site.
I hope that brought a smile to your face.
Here is a scripture to bring a smile to your soul:
“...for I will go befoe your face. I will be on your right hand and on your left, and my Spirit shall be in your hearts, and mine angels round about you, to bear you up. ” —D&C 84:88
Let me know when you are ready for the Haagen-Dazs.
Love, the Nelsons
March 29th, 2006 at 5:01 pm e
Dear Steve, Ellen and Family,
) And for what to do we pray? For healing of course and that the Lord would give His peace and comfort to each of you…for emotional strength and patience with one another and that that you would all continue to trust in His love. We can’t always know this side of heaven why God allows such things to happen. But we can know that we are never alone…Jesus promised us this.
We wanted you to know that we have praying for all of you since we heard of the accident. As a matter of fact, so have members of our church AND the Women’s Guild of St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Visalia, CA (my mom put you on their prayer list
The outpouring of love and concern in all these posts just confirms what we already knew…that you are an awesome family and have touched more lives than you can imagine. We are priveleged to be your neighbors and to call you friends. May
the Lord continue to pour out His tremendous blessings on your family.
With Love,
The Ver Steeg Family
Nik, Shelley, River, Joshua, Madison & Nikolas
March 30th, 2006 at 10:32 am e
Hi there. I just wanted to tell Ellen that I love what she wrote. It makes me feel very good. Tell Steven that I love that picture of him and our brother Ricky. It is really adorable. I actually liked it so much that i have as my background on my computer so that I could look at Steven Whenever I wanted too. I wish I could be there right now to help with the Townsend Family in Utah but unfortuantly I am finishing up my senior year, so hopefully I will be able to come out this summer. I miss you guys a lot. Hope to see you soon.
Love
Jennifer Townsend
March 30th, 2006 at 11:13 am e
Hi Steven, Ellen, We’re so glad Steve your in rehab now and can look out and see the Mts and get around
Ellen, what terrific remarks, your a special lady, what insight you have. Steve, Stephanie Lindsey (Meyers) is in our ward and she said to tell you that all the Lindsey siblings are praying for you and your family and your in their thoughts and they send their love
Also I don’t know if you remember Marilyn Carrillo in old 17th (Branham ward) she remembers you and sends her love. I don’t know if you remember Veda Stitt or knew any of her kids, she passed away last week and I attended her service on Sat. I saw Jeff Jenkins there and he also sends his love. Amber mentioned to me this morning that your back docters are the same ones Kirk had, and Kirk was hoping you would get them, he said their the best
Your Uncle Jim just had some surgery on his bladder and a tumor removed we
! We have had so much rain, which we did need and our hills are a beautiful green, we even had snow on the mts. around Hollister, I felt like we were living in a ski resort ! We’ll write some more later. Its good to see Ricky there with you, Hi Ricky! Steve, we know your working hard, we love you and Ellen and your family and all of you continue to be in our prayers. Love, Aunt Sherry and Uncle Jim and family
are waiting for results, we feel that all will be ok. He went back to work today much to his delight, because I had him doing all kinds of household chores for me while I was at work. He was feeling better and going stir crazy so I thought I would help him out
March 30th, 2006 at 2:15 pm e
Greetings, Ellen, Steve and everyone else,
Sometimes I feel like I’m spying on your family through this website. I’m the “unofficial news bearer” to the symphony about your progress. (They want a report every saturday morning. ) We all feel the noticable void—no booming kettle drums, not wise-crack comments from the tall, handsome goatee-bearing drummer in the back. Our two remaining percussionists are doing their very best to make the beat go on. I’m so happy to see Steve’s smile in those great pictures, and to learn that he is wheeling himself and lifting weights! WAY TO GO!
I am not surprised to see Ellen smiling in every picture. You are AMAZING! It is so touching to read your entries, Ellen, and Andrew’s honest thoughts, as well as all your supporters. I really hate to read the newspaper and watch the garbage on the daily news. But here on your Townsend News sight I am greatly uplifted by all that is happening in your world.
Andrew is doing a wonderful thing here—a living family history—that will be treasured by not only those closest to you, but also by those of us who are spying on you through this blog.
Our prayers are continually with you.
Elise—that obnoxious cellist—and symphony spy
March 30th, 2006 at 6:28 pm e
Steven Patrick!
Thanks to your son Andrew for this site and all others who have contributed. I have just spent the last half hour or so reading the comments of those I know, and some I don’t know. I am amazed at the outpouring of love and faith in your behalf, and I know it will continue. I had the wonderful opportunity to take my wife to the Oakland Temple last week. It was such a refreshing and instructive occasion. It is always easier to contemplate the Saviours love for us in that beautiful setting. As we prayed in the Temple, I knew that your name was on the prayer roll multiple times, and I could feel the prayers ascending in your behalf. What a beautiful doctrine- that God wants us to understand our origins, that we are literally His children, as such, have the innate abilities to develop the kind of characteristics He has- and that through His Son, we may receive grace sufficient to lead us to salvation and Eternal Life. I know you are on that path. I also know that your Dad is in Paradise, planning for, working for, and continuing to lead his family. I feel very close to your family, and I would love to see all of you again soon. I am proud of you and your character and progress you are making, both physically and spiritually.
I have to take a moment to bring up some more childhood memories: I often think of our times at Grandma Bea’s house in Nice- I don’t know how many times I took that great summer trip with your family, but I have many memories of things we did there. I remember the adventures on Clear (not so clear!) Lake, with the yellow and blue inflatable raft. You, Daniel, and me would paddle out to the buoys and enjoy the sun and the breeze. I remember the hours of fun at the cabin with straw propelled projectile fights. I remember playing basketball at the park, then me hurling on the side of the road (must be something I ate!) on the way back, then again in the car (mostly out the window)- The many walks to the little store for vital supplies such as candy, and more candy, and soda-pop, and candy! Everyday was an adventure- we had the lake as our playground, and imagination as our guide (and chips and bean-dip for our fuel!). Your Mom was always awesome to facilitate us having a great time- I miss your Mom- I haven’t seen her in years. Your Dad was always a source of stability and reason, and an example in steadfastness and goodness, I miss him too. Forgive me for waxing nostalgic, I hope that these things will revive some of our good memories together. Oh, I almost forgot- remember the pre-karaoke singing along to Queensryche songs with your dual cassette recorder- I must say that was some of the finest singing I’ve heard without actually knowing the lyrics!!
Well brother, I love you and my prayers are with you- let the prayers of all of your loved ones on this side and on the other buoy you up and strengthen you daily. You are an inspiration to me and to so many as you have witnessed. It’s great to see pictures of Ricky, Daniel, Anthony, your Mom and your wife and family. Someday soon I will make the journey to see you. I’m grateful that my brother Trevor lives close by so he can represent for my family. God speed!
Andy
March 30th, 2006 at 6:38 pm e
Dear Ellen—I hope Steve is doing better everyday. I just wanted you to know that my Steve and I are still on Springwater Drive, not too far off the beaten path on your way to the hospital. I know you have a little one named Abbie. We have a little one named Garrett and he is 3 1/2. I would love to watch your little princess if you ever need to drop her off somewhere…..NO MATTER WHEN or WHAT TIME OF DAY. Hang in there! We pray for you everyday…..for your family…and for Steve to regain the use of as many muscles and skills as possible. You guys can do it
! This is the refiner’s and you will come out better people for this journey. Call if you need anything. Debbie and Steve Hirchak 225-6351
April 2nd, 2006 at 8:53 pm e
I was reading all of the notes from everyone,awesome! It brings back so many memories. Andy Durhams memories of Clear Lake. I remember getting up out of the water to ski and being covered in green algaie! yuck. I think all of us have pucked going over that mountain at some time. One time Valerie was in the very back of the station wagon eating All of her Easter candy and starting hurling. Needless to say we had a long stinky ride home. I seem to think our dog Tiana had had puppies that we had in the car also. Anyone remember the Diamond Fields? Searching for Diamonds for hours.
I spoke with Steven on the phome tonight. He said the prayers, cards really help and make a difference.
Ellen and Steven, you two are teaching us all to value each other and our families and friends and each day. Thanks for your example. Love, Lisa
April 3rd, 2006 at 6:56 pm e
Ellen, I heard about your husband at Roundtable last month. My heart sank when I heard the news from Margaret. From the sound of things I have read on this website it sounds like you have a strong husband with a good attitude. I know you guys will be able to make make it through this trial. I have learned that we can live through a lot more than we think we can. I hope this is the worst thing you have to go through. Be strong and loving. My prayers are with you.
Lorna
April 3rd, 2006 at 8:45 pm e
Hi all you Townsend cousins! Yes Lisa, I remember the Diamond Fields, searching for diamonds all day long. Remember the long rides we would take with all us kids packed into the stationwagon looking for hours to find just the right picnic site, and ending up on the side of the freeway with Mom (Aunt Sherry) and Vicky laughing hysterically. I also remember one of the times we stopped at the store and we had bought some candy and Steven was chewing on a Jolly Rancher and his filling fell out! Also the many Easter’s we spent at the Clear Lake cabin, and I am sure Steven remembers finding the funny looking Gold egg at the local Easter Egg Hunt and winning the giant life size bunny rabbit!! Those were fun times and I have fond memories. I am glad to hear of the progress you are making! We love you and pray for you daily!
April 4th, 2006 at 9:49 pm e
My dear friend,
How wonderful it is to have your first posting on this site. It sure uplifted me as I’m sure many others as they read it. It goes without saying that the past month has been the most difficult in your life, but this site proves that there are literally hunders if not thousands out there praying for your adaptation to a new life. We’re all so excited to see you emerge addressing each of the challenges you outlined. You will do with (no doubt) with the same energy you’ve conducted your life! Congratulations on your progress! We love and admire you and look forward to having you ‘amongst us’ once again.
April 6th, 2006 at 12:50 pm e
Steve and the Townsend Pit Crew,
Great to hear that things are progressing nicely. John and I have been keeping up with the website and are thrilled to see the first entry from Steve. Technology is such an amazing thing. Imagine if all we had was the Pony Express?!
When we had our house fire John and I learned a valuable lesson that we’d like to share (besides be careful at the brace burning ceremony)
When the bad days happen be gracious, kind and loving to yourselves. Too many folks are quick to judge themselves for being human and its ok to be human! The bad days will pass like storm clouds and the sun does come out again. Thankfully.
Cheering for you all!
Terri and John
April 6th, 2006 at 4:30 pm e
Dearest Steve and Ellen,
I was thrilled to read how well you are progressing and how quickly rehab is going for you. It is wonderful that you are physically improving (no more machines) and medication is minimal. I know that you both will do well and figure out what you need.
I continue to pray for your speedy recovery and know, in my heart that you will persevere!
I wish you both well and Ellen, hope to talk to you soon.
Leslie
April 6th, 2006 at 5:20 pm e
Ellen, Steven, Adam, and the rest of the family. Great to read about Steven’s progress. The one thing I hated to see when my grandmother was paralyzed and wheel chair bound, was her lack of spirit and determination to learn and adapt to her condition. To read that Steven is yearning and determined to make life as “normal” as possible is incredible. It’s very refreshing and inspiring.
Shannon and I keep you and your family in our thoughts.
Shannon and I recently were in Corpus Christi, Texas for a short vacation on the beach, and at a restaurant for dinner, the next table had a LDS minister telling jokes. He made me think of you guys, and thought I’d share one of the jokes that had me laughing and groaning all through dinner.
In a South American village, a small church couldn’t afford to build a proper bell tower, and so the bell was suspended from poles just 4 feet off the ground. One day when the pastor was set to go ring the bell for services a young man came up and asked if he could have the honor. The pastor agreed. The boy then backed up quite a bit from the bell and with a running leap struck the bell face first with his head. BONG went the bell. Dazed, the boy got up off the ground, backed up and did the same thing again. BONG went the bell. After the second hit, the boy was out cold on the ground. He was rushed away for medical attention. A parishoner walked up and asked the pastor who the boy was, and pastor said “I don’t know, but his race rings a bell”.
Next day another boy who looked alot like the first one asks the pastor if he can have the honor of sounding the bell for services. The pastor agreed. The boy ran away from the bell about 10 feet, stops, turns and in a running flying leap hits the bell head first. BONG goes the bell. The boy doesn’t get up. He’s dead on the ground. Later the same parishoner asks the Pastor who this second boy was, to which he replies, “I’m not sure but he’s a dead ringer for his brother”
So horrible, but I had to share. Light speed Steven on your recovery. If you guys need anything from Texas, let me know.
-Gordon
April 7th, 2006 at 10:12 am e
Hi, It’s me again.
I don’t know if anybody would be interested. You all want to find ways to help, and Ellen cannot ask.
Steven and Ellen were charged for the damage to the ATV’s, over a thousand dollars.
If you could possibly help our family would appreciate it, as our funds are low from flying back and forth to Utah.
This is hard for me to say, but it must be done.
I thank you, as their brother, for all you have already given in service to their family.
Please Send Contributions To:
Russell Spencer
1136 N. Birch Lane
Provo, UT 84604
Love, Anthony
April 7th, 2006 at 10:21 am e
Hi Steven and Ellen and family, I was so thrilled to get a message from you steven and glad to hear of your progress and improvement
It is wonderful that we can keep up with your strides, again I have to say I love this website
Thanks for giving us so much detail, I feel like I’ve just visited with you. Your comments were so uplifting and and made me feel so good, your an inspiration for all of us. Conference was wonderful and many times I too thought of you and your family as I listened to the talks! We love you and continue to pray for you and your family. Love, aunt Sherry
April 7th, 2006 at 12:49 pm e
Howdy all you folks, its great that Steve has been able to keep up on reading this and the rest of us also. Anthony I think it is great that you ask for help with the quad, some of us have talked about that already and I am sure it will be taken care of. It is good to see some names on here I havnt heard or seen in years. If any of you would like to talk give me a call. I will be going back to Utah to help in doing the house conversion for when Steve gets home, so any that live near American Fork and would like to help my number is 209-675-5134. Thanks again for all the help in cleaning out his garage and for all the thoughts and prayers you have given my brother and his family…Rick
April 7th, 2006 at 11:03 pm e
It is so awesome to get letters from my Jambo friends! Isnt the internet a great tool of communication!! I need to make something clear, for those of you who may be confused with the proper name of my spouse. His full name is Steven Patrick Townsend, but the only people who call him Steven are those that knew him as a little boy growing up. Now, in all social settings, he goes by Steve…just Steve. It would be a horrible mix up for any Bees out there to think this is all about “Steven”, if you get my drift!
My Steve cant watch me sleep here on my hosptial cot because he has too many pillows proping him up on his side facing the other direction, and he has never worried about me standing on a chair to be taller – which is a good thing since I will now be the tallest person in the house (once my son moves out in a year from now). All teasing, of course, you can call him Steve or Steven, as long as YOU know the difference! 
(inside joke for all other readers…move on)
I was really looking forward to attending Jambo 1020 with my husband, I think he would have liked being a Pirate at the scuba pool. Perhaps he could give instructions in the tent and sign the paperwork or be the towel boy. Or he could be the greeter at the TP! That is always a coveted position Im sure. haha
We dont know what his capacities will be that far in the future, or what our finances will be like. We currently owe several hundred on ATV repairs to the rental company, and we are in the middle of building an addition to our three level home so Steve can have a bedroom and bathroom on the main level, built to his needs. In a few years, after we adjust to his new abilities, we plan to buy some land nearby our familiar niehgborhood and build a one level spcifically for wheelchair accessability.
I hope you all know you can come to the beehive state to ski the greatest snow on earth any time. And in the spring, summer, fall the national parks are amazingly beatuiful!! I wont make you go to any church sites, just come visit ME!!
I miss you all very much, I have found great strength in your words of incouragement here on ths family site. Thank you for stopping by for a brief visit.
LN/ET
PS, Gordon, we love your story about the bell ringers!! (How do you know it was a Mormon minister telling the story?) Steve and I actully saw that as a skit at a basic training camp out for adults. Way back when I was green in Cubs I attended the weeklong training for new scouts (first year boy scouts) because I was in the primary, like being a committee memeber resprenting the COR. Anyway, the only way I could go was if my husband camped with me. that was ok because he was there on staff already. anyway, back to the story, some ‘old fart scouters’ acted out this story about the bell and we all laughed outselves silly!! I dont think any youth would get the play on words, but it is cool for a grownup campfire! Thanks for taking the time to type it all in, Im sure many reasders have enjoyed its humor. ~LN
April 8th, 2006 at 11:44 pm e
well i never really have posted anything on here… so i guess i should seeing as i’m one of the first people to find out about this huge change in our family…. AND Steve is my father.
well i just have to say that it’s going to be quite the chalenge, but it’s part of life and i can tell it’s going to strengthen me in many ways. i’ve talked to dad a lot and i’m REALLY happy that he has a great attitude about everything- because it would really REALLY be hard for everyone if he was acting like an old dying fart all the time. ... i wouldn’t want to visit him. i dunno- there are many people nicer than me that would put up with that stuff… ANYWAYS…. i would just like to say hello to everyone who likes to read these comments.. so Hello. I’m Natalie Townsend, what a pleasure it is to meet you. well i’m going to be off.. it’s past me bed time! argh. thank you.. everyone… for helping me through my times of .. sadness. 
April 9th, 2006 at 12:00 pm e
Joe Griffith (Lisa Townsend Griffith’s husband), is my husband Larry’s Brother. We have been keeping up on your accident and progression, but we spent yesterday with Joe and Lisa, and got the details, and she shared this website with us. Incredible. I have been sitting here blubbering over the whole thing, especially the comments from your family, Steven. (You are Steven to us because Lisa calls you Steven!). The blessings and miracles that have occured since the accident are so inspiring to me! I know there are some down times, but your incredible attitude and the rallying around of your friends and family are what it is all about. To me, this is what Heavenly Father is talking about when He refers to The Law of Concecration. Everyone working together for good. Keep up the good work, everybody! Wonderful things are in store for you, Steven. You are in our prayers every day.
Love, Kathy and Larry Griffith, Paso Robles, California
April 9th, 2006 at 10:53 pm e
Hey Steve! Just popping in to say hello and that we are still thinking of you. The weeks will drag on and your hospital stay will be completed and you will FINALLY get to go home (hooray!). When life gets “back to normal” we’ll still be thinking of you and including you in our prayers. I hope the website stays active forever as a way to keep in touch (because I’ve been so bad at it since you moved from Orem).
I too have pondered on the far-reaching influence one man can have on so many. It is unfortunate that it takes a life-altering accident such as yours for the rest of us to speak out and express the love and appreciation we feel for you and your family. Perhaps one of the many lessons we can learn from this is that we should express our love more often, and at random moments, not waiting until we are prompted to do so. Thank you, Steve – in the midst of your challenges, you are lifting us all.
Love from Mark & Cindee & the five Nielsen kids
April 10th, 2006 at 2:24 pm e
‘...Indeed, there is no human condition – be it suffering, incapacity, inadequacy, mental deficiency, or sin – which He cannot understand or for which His love will not reach out to the individual…’ President Ezra T. Benson.
We know you have felt the loving arms of our Savior, and hope that you will continually feel our love and hope and prayers for you and your family. We miss you in our ward family, and will all cheer the day you can join us again.
You have the rare opportunity and blessing of becoming ‘as a little child’ again. Learning and relearning many important things. We pray that you will be blessed and strengthened in this endeavor.
We love you so very much,
Gary and Julene Judd and family
April 10th, 2006 at 10:09 pm e
Hi! Just checking in. I love reading from everyone and their thoughts about family, friends and life, very inspiring. There are goods things happening in the world, the evening news needs to come to this website!
Talked to Daniel tonight about the plans for the house remodel, sounds like it is moving along. Joe said he will come out and help, but Daniel said there are plenty of helping hands. Let us know if he is needed.
I was the one who came up with Stevens name. We were all sitting around the Dinner table thinking of names for the new baby coming. I came up with Steven and just love the name. I don’t remember the other names, but Steven won the most votes. I think we all came up with the name Patrick. It is a very Irish name and we have alot of Irish ancestory. You have been Steven to the family every since!
Tiana and I will be in Provo on FRi. May 5th. When it gets closer we can talk about where you will be that day. Looking forward to seeing you and the family. Natalies birthday is on the 7th! 16 years old! Wow!
Brent is doing his last merit badge as we speak and then he will submit for his Eagle Scout. Yeah. They say behind every Eagle scout is a Vulture mother. I have felt like that at times.
We will be getting together at Mom’s for EAster weekend.
Glad to hear you are getting such great care and so close to your home. People here on the Central Coast of Calif have to go to Los Angeles for any spinal cord injuries. Its hard on the families to have to be so far away. I was so impressed with the facility in Utah.
Looking forward to see you all in May. Love you, Lisa
April 11th, 2006 at 5:07 pm e
Hey,
Thought that I would write and let you know that I have very much enjoyed the various comments. Also glad to read your and Ellen’s posts, very encouraging news! Natalie’s comments were very interesting, she and our Ash sound very much alike. When I was reading Ellen’s comments about what to say and what not, I thought of Cyrano de Bergerac when talking about his nose (or Steve Martin in the movie Roxanne an adaption of the Cyrano story).
a Star Trek fan I would say, “So, are you Captain Christofer Pike?”
Or a fan of X-Men (which I am and read the comic books every week), “so do you want me to call you Professor Townsend or just Wheels?”
I also found it thought provoking the post on the 10th of April about the things that you are working on and cannot accomplish at this moment. It is also interesting to see that Daniel is working on helping with a design to improve mobility in the existing house. I noted Ellen mentioned that in future you will build a house that is more ergonimic for a wheeled convayance.
I wanted to say how much I enjoyed calling you as my bike turned over the 2,000 mile mark when I was in Texas last week. It was a very singular event as I called you when I hit the 1,000 mile mark. I apprechiate your encouragement and support of my attempts to ride in the Tour de France! yeah right! When I called I was riding up a very steep hill in the Texas heat and humidity. I was thinking as I was riding up that hill and sweating like a herd of pigs, that you were also putting forth maximum effort in learning to propel yourself. Even though I did not plan it, the steepest part of the hill was just ahead and I noted the odometer on the bike was at 1,999.0, and I would be calling you just at the point when I would be just about out of breath. I thought, ‘well, when I call he will think that it is some idiot panting into the phone and hang up.’ But, the motivation to call you just as the odometer hit 2,000 gave me that extra power to call. Normally I need two hands on the bars to ride up steep hills as I usually stand on the pedals and just crank for all I am worth. However, thinking of all you and your family were going through, the effort, pain, and stamina you have demonstrated, I thought that I would just use one hand on the bar and dial with the other. As the numbers 1,999.5 showed up, I dialed your room number (fingers sliped off once with sweat). I stood up and really started to accelerate up the hill going from 9.5 mph to 12.2 mph just as you answered. Amazingly I did not loose my grip with just one hand—it was raining a bit, and I heard your voice on the other end of the electron stream. You answered so cheerful, I could not but help to put more power into the pedals and get an extra .5 mph out of the old bike. Sounding like an old steam train just pulling out of the station, I panted out that I had just turned over 2,000 miles, etc. It was your responce that carried me over the top of that hill. It is amazing how just an encouraging word from a brother can be the thing that is needed most when you are about to just stop the bike and fall over on someones lawn and wish for a new body and ask ‘why are you doing this, you idiot!’ After I hung up, I made a right turn down another street. After climbing for two miles the decent down the next hill was sweet. Hunkering down on the handle bars I started to peddle faster and soon I was at 28 mph and cruising. Once again I thought of you and your challenges that lay ahead of you and how you will feel the sweet wind of effort go past you.
Cycling and wheelchairing are at once singular and plural events. The required effort of locomotion comes from the rider, and yet the ride is most enjoyable when assisted by others. While the power of locomotion is with different muscle groups the similarity is that each rider must endure pain, suffering and agony at times to complete the task. But, there is a challenge both face: To have the faith, courage and hope to endure and succeed so that life will be as normal as possible. We both have bodies that are broken, or as I like to say, ‘a body that gives me a challenge to compensate for,’ but broken is just a relative term. A ride down the hill is only exillerating because the ride up the hill is really the fun part, the part that gives the most satisfaction because it takes faith, courage, pain and teaches us that we can do more than we know we are capable of. There is another reason why the trip up the hill is possible, because your family and friends are pushing you up that hill, just as you did when I called you last week—thanks for the push, I really needed it.
Michael
April 14th, 2006 at 9:23 am e
Steve & Family:
Happy Easter! I receive the LDS Gems email every day and today it had an Easter Message from the Prophet. In addition, there is a video clip entitled “My Joy is full”. It features the Savior in the America’s blessing and healing the people. It was very touching. I encourage you to watch it. I’m sure it will bring hope to you as it did to me. Have a wonderful Easter season. Keep fighting. You can view the Easter message and links to the video clips here: http://www.lds.org/gems/easter2006
Steve Hirchak
April 14th, 2006 at 9:45 pm e
The miracle of the day:
I just want to share a sweet experience I had the other day….......I was painting at the Townsend’s home when Steve come home for a visit! He had two escorts, his therapists.
Steve got from the car to the wheelchair by himself (well mostly) and then his dog, Sparky gave him a very warm welcome by running to him and dropping a ball at his feet.
Steve came into the house and checked out how home was going to be with his new wheels. I enjoyed listening to him play the guitar but I most enjoyed his smile and his words about miracles and the Spirit and how important relationships are.
I think we have a new superman.
April 15th, 2006 at 10:57 pm e
Hey Steve—I wasn’t going to post, but I got reading your blog, so I thought what the heck. Apparently it’s all about YOU right now, isn’t it. Just kidding.
Me and the missus and Storeys and Hirchaks just got back from the Scera. We saw some guy who does a one-man variety show (impressions, songs, comedy). He was pretty funny. Sadly, I don’t think Perry/Andy could fill the Scera II showhouse, let alone our living room, but we can dream, can’t we? I do know that at least Dana Johnson would show up.
I crack up whenever I think of us at your house mulling over wacky lyrics to John Denver’s ‘Sunshine.’ One man’s tragedy, I guess. It was SO fun writing that stuff with you.
We’re t-minus five days away from the reemergence of ‘Chocolate Mood’ at Jamba. Get those taste buds in full working order, my friend.
As for the ‘Stang, well—it’s just metal, rubber, and glass. But oh, what a combination. My loss of the old man’s ‘64 1/2 (I should have never went on a mission, then he wouldn’t have sold it. Who am I kidding? I would have wrapped it around some telephone pole, blamed the church, never met Julie, never met you . . ..) isn’t the same as yours. All the same, I still grieve with you on that one. The oversized van with the wheelchair ramp just doesn’t quite say “Babe (Ellen) Magnet”, does it? Maybe paint some flames on it, or a big ol’ screetching eagle, a la the late ‘70s camaro . . ..
Anyway, props on getting a short reprieve at your house (today? yesterday?). That is SO cool. I bet seeing the dog alone was worth it (dogs are such unconditionally-loving animals anyway). Familiarity. It’s still there, huh? That had to have buoyed your spirits, man. I hope there’s much more of that for you, and soon.
I look forward to seeing you again.
Much love (and respect),
AdamApril 15th, 2006 at 10:57 pm e
Hey Steve—I wasn’t going to post, but I got reading your blog, so I thought what the heck. Apparently it’s all about YOU right now, isn’t it. Just kidding.
Me and the missus and Storeys and Hirchaks just got back from the Scera. We saw some guy who does a one-man variety show (impressions, songs, comedy). He was pretty funny. Sadly, I don’t think Perry/Andy could fill the Scera II showhouse, let alone our living room, but we can dream, can’t we? I do know that at least Dana Johnson would show up.
I crack up whenever I think of us at your house mulling over wacky lyrics to John Denver’s ‘Sunshine.’ One man’s tragedy, I guess. It was SO fun writing that stuff with you.
We’re t-minus five days away from the reemergence of ‘Chocolate Mood’ at Jamba. Get those taste buds in full working order, my friend.
As for the ‘Stang, well—it’s just metal, rubber, and glass. But oh, what a combination. My loss of the old man’s ‘64 1/2 (I should have never went on a mission, then he wouldn’t have sold it. Who am I kidding? I would have wrapped it around some telephone pole, blamed the church, never met Julie, never met you . . ..) isn’t the same as yours. All the same, I still grieve with you on that one. The oversized van with the wheelchair ramp just doesn’t quite say “Babe (Ellen) Magnet”, does it? Maybe paint some flames on it, or a big ol’ screetching eagle, a la the late ‘70s camaro . . ..
Anyway, props on getting a short reprieve at your house (today? yesterday?). That is SO cool. I bet seeing the dog alone was worth it (dogs are such unconditionally-loving animals anyway). Familiarity. It’s still there, huh? That had to have buoyed your spirits, man. I hope there’s much more of that for you, and soon.
I look forward to seeing you again.
Much love (and respect),
AdamApril 18th, 2006 at 10:40 am e
Hello again it was brought to my attention that I must type to fast cause I left the wrong phone number 209-675-5143 is the right one. I am going back to Utah Sat. 4-22/4-25 so if anyone wants to talk give me a call and again thanks for all the help
April 20th, 2006 at 12:17 am e
Hi Steve:
I don’t know if I’ve ever had the chance to meet you. My dad, Bill Street, is one of your employees (I think that’s what he would be…) @ Novell. I was talking to him about some issues that my husband & I have been having, and he told me that I needed to be thankful for what I do have, and that there are people in this world that have more unfortunate problems. He then began to cry as he shared with me your unfortunate accident that had happened that past weekend. I just want you to know that my dad looks up to you, and although I don’t know you, you have inspired me, because you are a VERY stong man. You have so many people that love you! I just want you to know that you are in my prayers, and I really hope that everything will work out for you and your family. Words cannot even begin to explain how I feel for you and your suffering, but I do know that you will get through this! I know that my dad isn’t the only one that misses you at Novell. I don’t know if you are going to be able to go to work, or if you already are back at work, or what, but if you plan to go back, I just want you to know that I wish you a quick recovery and that you will be able to be back in your office soon! You are a good man.
May God bless you and your wife, and your children. I can only try to imagine how big of a struggle this is for you and your family. Hang in there. God is watching over you. 
Sincerely,
Sydney Street-Burnside
April 21st, 2006 at 8:45 am e
Ellen,
Thought I’d finally get around to replying to all us Trading Post Bees. I’ll be sure to correct myself when typing Steve. Just Steve. Anyways I knew the gentleman at dinner was a LDS minister by the large Mormon cross around his neck, the LDS Bible held close to his chest, and the fact that the waiter asked the table what denomination everyone was and they all replied Morman or LDS.
By the way I’ve taken on more Scouting responsibilities. I’m now the Training Chair for our district in charge of Venturing. I was course director for Venturing Leader Position Specific Training in our district on April 8th. 15 participants, and more pictures taken than I wanted to know about since I was there, dressed to impress. Kilt and Venturing Green Uniform and the rest. I’m also the new Assistant Venturing Roundtable Commissioner. We’re getting that rolling next month. I think the 2010 Jamboree would be great for both of you to be in attendance for. Have some all terrain wheels/tires for Steve. and you guys are set.
And to add to Adam’s comment from April 15th. Your “Babe (Ellen) Magnet” van could be painted up to look like the A-Team van. You know every episode they would “build” or construct some contraption to get them out of whatever sticky situation they were in. I imagine that will be the case in your own house as Steve. moves home and you guys adjust to everyday life. Figuring out some of that stuff will be difficult. Also let me know if you need help in the future with the architecture of your accessible house. I might be able to give you some tips on things you might not think about just yet.
Wishing all the best and a quick trip home for Steve,
-Gordon
P.S. 43 Days and Counting til Wedding Time. Can you feel the excitement?
April 21st, 2006 at 2:12 pm e
When I first accsesed this site I was immmediatly reading from the beggining with all intentions of reading all text and just really learn from this expirience. Later I learned that the site is very rich in text and that you have a lot of people who care for you. And here is another. I have witnessed the passion of someone who is not letting the torch down and it gives me courage to litterally do some stuff that I have been long dredding.”*cough*” a loan. After talking to Mom and Ricky in person I already knew you were beyond my remorse and riding the spirit of the lord which you harness so well. I am soo moved at your courage to move on, and like ricky said think this is the time for those of us to learn from this exp. and do something we have been putting off-”family reunion” good one,”me going to church on my own” good one 2. I just found out theres a church like 6 blocks from my house soooo…. im gonna make the leap on over there. But as for you all i can say is man you look great for someone with adams mouth photoshoped on to you it gives you a way younger look and me a good laugh. You keep on keepin on and ill try to see if its possible for me to go up there and give you guys a real visit…ohh yeah in light of a lot of new research I was readin about this new superquake thats supposed to hit and im gonna say I am honestly thinkin about movin away for a few years untill it hits its supposed to be pretty crazy.And i don’t know why I added that in there I must have overbonded.My prayers(I know) will be with you steven and your family all of you…and reporting from the yeah area.Tim Townsend-out.
April 21st, 2006 at 7:50 pm e
Dear Steven,
It has been nearly a month since I wrote anything on this site. I read all of the info regarding your progress, and the entries that Ellen and you have written are so inspiring. I can’t begin to tell you how you have lifted me up. What a remarkable gift, to have suffered so and will have to face so many challenges, and yet, by evidence of your writing, offer such a profound spirit and and positive attitude. I keep trying to get hold of your mom, but I cant seem to get anything but the voice mail. I have wanted to know how you have been doing. I am truly grateful for this web site that your loved ones have set up and that you are all sharing, through writing, the experiences and events that you are facing, mastering, and enduring. It is so uplifting. I just sat hear and had tears streaming down my face to think that you have had to go through so much and that your family and their lives have also been affected in the ways that they have been touched. I am amazed at the positive attitude that is protrayed and flows out of your writings. Such inspiration for anyone who reads what you share. I came across a wonderful article describing the many famous people who have been abruptly faced with unimaginable and unexpected challenges, and how they have risen above their challenges to go on to accomplish truly miraculous and marvelous achievements. They have changed the course of human events inspite of their infirmities and hardships. You will be numbered among them, I know. It is my intent to try to get a copy of it to you somehow, either through the mail, or by typing it in bits and pieces on this sight.
I am personally grateful to all of the people who so willingly and beautilfully share their wisdom, insights, and hopes in your behalf on this site because, not only does it surely touch you deeply, it does the same for me. What a resource to be able to read so many spiritual and encouraging words that can uplift not only you but your readers. I am sure that everyone who writes to you has areas of need in their own lives, and as it was said, isn’t it something to realize that one man could be loved and valued so much—that is you, Steven. However, as people honor and support you in this open forum, they also offer hope and love and connection for all who are fortunate enough to be able to access their thoughts and writings. I truly have been uplifted by not only what you have said, what has been said about you, and what has been said to encourage and send loving, compassionate, spiritual words of love to you but just to know that there are so many who have not forgotten and are there to help in the many needs you will have for a long time.
I got a beautiful card from your Grandma Bea thanking me for the words that I expressed to you about your father. Danny. Do you know how much that meant to me for her to take the time to let me know how much my words meant to her? How out of sad and horrific things can come the most meaningful of life’s experiences! I wanted to say thank you to your
friends, family, loved ones, and you for each miracle and event that your experience has brought to this situation.
We pray for you each and every day, and for your mom and your loved ones. Keep up the blogs—they mean so much—and keep up the terrific and positive attitude and commitment you bring to this challenge.
The best always, Clair Ann
April 22nd, 2006 at 10:51 pm e
I need an email address for Tim Townsend. Please email me or leave it here if you don’t mind a hundred people knowing your address.
LN_at_home@yahoo.com
April 26th, 2006 at 3:45 pm e
Hello Steve…
I just wanted to say what a ‘blast from the past’ it is to see your very handsome son – Andrew – all dressed up in his tux ready for the dance. I remember MANY years ago seeing you in much the same outfit. And…how much you both look alike!! My goodness!! It is also a much different feeling to see you and your brother Ricky with the ‘touches’ of gray in the hair and on the face! Isn’t it amazing how time is just flying by…One day you’re in high school, and the next you have teens of your own.
I just wanted to say Hello…and let you know there are still many of your old ‘high school acquaintences’ here in California that keep you in our thoughts and prayers. It’s been great to be able to pop into the web site and get aquainted with your family and check on your progress…you have such a great support in your family and friends and church. Continue the fight…cheer and celebrate your successes! I know we do! The things you have accomplished in not even two months…most amazing. It will all fall into place. I know there is a greater purpose in store for you.
Karen Walters – Sally Oliver (Bufalini)’s Mom
April 27th, 2006 at 8:28 pm e
Dear Steve,
I was so shocked to hear about your accident. I had gotten an email from Val who heard about it from Kris. The weird thing was I was just talking about you the day before. My daughter Megan was looking through my high school photo albums and saw a picture of us. Man, that was so long ago. After I heard about the accident I was anxious to find out your condition and the other day I happened to check an old email address of mine and found an email from Debbie listing this website. I was so excited and have enjoyed reading about your progress and getting to know your family. I so admire you and your family’s strength, courage and testimony of the gospel and Jesus Christ. You and your family are a wonderful example to me. Keep smiling and working hard. You have come a long way!
Sincerely,
Jennifer
April 27th, 2006 at 9:29 pm e
Townsend family,
Your son, Andrew, whom I met and got to know at Jamboree last summer, informed me of his father. I pray all is continuing to go well and certainly know the Lord will continue to and will always hold you in the palm of his hand! I will pray for you and the family, for prayer is one of the strongest forms of healing. Andrew, you are a fantastic and intelligent person, and I am overjoyed that I got to know you! Will save this site to my favorites.
Scott Teater, from W.B., Iowa
April 27th, 2006 at 9:37 pm e
Hi Ellen and Steve,
Wow you two are amazing! You bring new meaning to the word hope for me. I’m so grateful I can pray for you because not being able to hug you has been hard for me. I wish I could help you with your kids and all the everyday life things that need to be done, I’m good at those kind of things. (cleaning toliets, mopping floors, combing hair, making meals etc…)
I think of you constantly, I feel more deeply than ever the incredible love our Heavenly Father and Savior has for all of us, because of you and these mortal experiences you are having. Thank you for this blessing in my life.
I love you guys!
We had the missionaries over the other night to teach some of our friends. I was trying to tell them about the Hill Cumorah, the angel Moroni etc., All of a sudden many memories came flooding in of our time at the Hill Cumorah Pageant, life is fleeting, how many years ago was that?
Thanks for all the memories of our youth.
Take care, all my love, Liz
April 28th, 2006 at 11:36 pm e
Ellen,
This Posting is all about you. (This is with complete humor intended for this first paragraph). How can you complain about needing to do 1,000 different things and needing to have them all done at the same time?!? I mean it’s only a change in habits, lifestyle, Home floor plan, and the rest of your life. Geez. That’s so selfish of you to be “me, me, me all the time”. Gosh. As my dad would say, you need to get your priorities together.
Ellen, now for the praise part. Things I witnessed in a very short time. I only saw you unpack large boxes, help setup from scratch an entire store, reorganize a stock room, replenish the supplies on the shelves, sort pant sizes, operate a cash register, hold countless conversations while doing something else, keep a positive outlook, befriend some strange people (like Jules, Leslie, and myself included), avoid your way too nosey camp neighbor, take care of your son from half a camp away, and manage to expand your scouting experiences way beyond your expectations and doing that all of it at virtually the same time within a two week period.
Coupled with all the new challenges that life has put at your feet.
That’s amazing. From reading all these posts on this website Your an amazing life manager, role model, mother, sister, daughter, friend, scouter, and most importantly loving wife to a man who needs you for all of those things. How you do it I will never understand. The perils, pitfalls, and highest heights that Life has for you, although complicated, comes naturally for you, and with no outstanding burden. Your selflessness is with few observed boundries, and seems never ending. You change lives with your small gestures in ways you don’t know, and probably aren’t aware of it.
Thank You for Being You.
-Gordon
P.S. I hope someone has a HUGE mother’s day, because you more than deserve it.
April 30th, 2006 at 2:38 pm e
Just wanted to write after i spent a few more days with Steve, Ellen and the kids. We had a great time or I should say I know I did. Doing the chair to car transfer and back again made me realize the strength it takes. I was able to go to church with the family and Steve and I went home after sacrament and had our own impromtu church session waiting for a cluster headache to go away and it was great to have another brother to brother talk. Thanks Steve. Like Ellen has said the people at the rehab center Shane (awesome) Ammon (nurse & friend) Randy (keep smiling) and all the others that I have met and in my old age 46 cant remember your names thanks for helping all of us. But most of all I want to thank Steve for being my brother and always remembering we are family. That goes for all my brothers and sisters…Talk to ya’ll later….
Rick
April 30th, 2006 at 9:38 pm e
Hi Steve –
It was great to see you at Sunday School today – you look great. You made a great impression on Mark when he visited you in the hospital a couple of weeks ago – thanks for letting your light shine. We’re glad Daniel’s been able to help out at your house a couple of times – let us know how else we can help.
You’re in our prayers –
Happy trails,
Barry
April 30th, 2006 at 10:26 pm e
Hi Steve and Ellen,
I just recently heard from my parents about your accident. We were shocked and saddened to hear of the seriousness of your injuries. Our prayers are with you as you recover and make the best of your situation. Remember we all love you and are pulling for you.
Your friend and cousin,
Brent and family
May 1st, 2006 at 9:13 pm e
Hey Steven,
Just wanted to say hello again and say how happy we are to see your progress and read the updates from you and your family, some of them very funny by the way. Trevor said that he came to visit and really suprised you and Ricky. He said it was great to be able to see you.
It sounds like you are completely surrounded by wonderful, supportive family, friends, doctors, specialists, etc. You will no doubt continue to progress by leaps and bounds.
You and your family continue to be in our prayers. My 3 daughters pray for you and loved to see the family pics you have on the site. My little 3 year old asks that you will be “healfy and strong” It’s pretty cute. Keep up the fight. Before you know it, you will have an upper body that will make all of the other guys look like “little girly men” (You have to remember, Arnold Schwarzzeneger is our governor out here in Cali) All the best, Heather, Dave and girls
May 3rd, 2006 at 10:46 am e
Steve is a great co-worker who is missed tons at Novell. More importantly, he’s a great person missed by many friends at Novell. My wife Judith and I wish Steve the best recovery possible.
May 8th, 2006 at 7:41 pm e
Hi Steven and Ellen and family, I’m sorry its been awhile since I’v written to you. So pleased at your progress Steven and yours also Ellen, you have so much to do and think about and plan we’re VERY proud of all of you and wonderful news about the new master sweet
When I saw the picture of your son Andrew with his date, andrew reminded me so much of you Steven when you were that age! Your messages are so wonderful and full of so much detail I almost have a mental picture of everything. Brandon, your cousin, Steve just graduated from college with a degree in Electrical Engineering and Digital Audio Technology and is currently working at Sun Micro-systems for the summer. We hope he can get a full time job because those banks will come calling soon for their money! You’ll appreciate this with your musical talent, Brandon went and bought his graduation present a new very nice accoustical guitar! We have you and your family in our prayers everyday and know how hard your working! Its so wonderful to see how far you’ve come. We love you and your family, your a great man! Talk to you soon, Love Aunt Sherry and Uncle Jim.
May 13th, 2006 at 4:03 pm e
Steve (and Family) – I was having flashbacks looking at your kids. It was almost like I was looking at you 25 years ago (we’re not THAT old are we?) I also enjoyed seeing the progression of the gray hair in you and Daniel and Rick. (I guess that does mean we’re old – at least you are, tee hee)
Kris and I and the rest of my family think of you and pray for you often. Kris keeps us updated on the details, but how GREAT to have a site like this where thoughts and anecdotes can be shared and preserved.
People like you keep me motivated to keep a good attitude. I wanna be you when I grow up. You Rock!
Keep the faith
Stefani
May 23rd, 2006 at 12:17 pm e
Thank you for the inspiration you provide. My brother is going through many of the same things you have just experienced. He shattered T9 & 10 in an auto accident, was on a vent at UVRMC for about a week and just started rehab in Oregon (back home) last week. It never ceases to amaze me how the Lord prepares us to handle the “growing” experiences we have in this life. If we let Him support us, we can do so much more than we ever thought we were capable of. A sense of humor has been essential to everything we’ve been through. As an example…my almost 4 year old daughter tells my brother he’s like “Humpty Dumpty…only they were able to put you back together again.”
It’s incredible the sense of peace that can be felt amidst the turmoil and trauma of life changing events. We recently went through an experience with premies that brought out a desperate dependancy on God’s power. Through the chaotic roller coaster ride that is the transition from what was to what is, we discovered that there is always an undercurrent of serenity. A sense of peace that all things will eventually work out for our good, despite the grief of the passing moment. I recently read a book that seemed to focus on the idea that we must always take full adavantage of the joy that is constantly within reach, even during the most trying circumstances. There is inevitably something or someone to brighten the most gray of days. It may be fleeting and seemingly insignificant to most, but when we grab on to that bit of sunshine, we will find that our fears and sorrows withdraw from each encounter with encouragement.
If you ever have a moment and would be interested in chatting with my brother, let me know and I’ll get you a phone number or email address. He’ll be in Oregon for the acute rehab and transition, before he can return to Utah to finish school.
Best wishes to you on this new journey, may God always bless you and yours,
Tiffiny
May 26th, 2006 at 2:06 pm e
Now, find your point hwere you will always be “Board Room Ready & Steady.” Then you will also be able to start to consider to drive that Mustang, after modifications, again too! You can find it in you, Steve! Don’t ever give up on the “two new yous.” Manage the one and the other will conquer and excell!
May 27th, 2006 at 4:44 pm e
Steve,
I know it’s been a few weeks now, but I wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed being able to visit with you earlier this month. It was nice to get together with you, Debbie, Dennis and Kim and talk about old times. I’m especially grateful I had the opportunity to listen to you talk about all that you have learned through this experience in your life. You are truly amazing! There aren’t very many people out there that can be in your position and have such a positive outlook on life. I know it is because of your great attitude and determination that you have progressed so quickly. Thank you for the things you taught me during that visit. I could have stayed and listened to you all day. I left the hospital feeling so spiritually uplifted. You are such a blessing to your family and friends. Thanks also to your son for creating this website. It has been fun to read the postings from everyone I know from San Jose. It was nice too to visit with Ellen. She is such a wonderful support for you. I’m glad you are home now and I hope you are doing well as you adjust to everything. Thanks, Steve, for being my friend. I feel lucky to know you!
Sending prayers your way,
Christine
May 28th, 2006 at 5:19 pm e
Dear Stephen and Family,
I have just found out yesterday from Christine, my daughter, I think you remember me, about the bad accident you had. I was shocked and I am so sorry that happend to a nice guy like you, but I guess that could happend to anyone. My prayers will be with you and your Family and I will take your name to the Temple next time I go.
I want to tell you something funny, that happend to me. A few weeks ago I wanted to call my sister in law in San Diego, her name is Vickie Tower. Well, I looked up the phone # in my little black phone book and dialed. A women answered, I said Vickie? she said yes, the voice soundet a little different, so I said is this Vickie Tower? she said no, this is Vickie Towsend. I was so surpriced to hear your Mom on the other end of the line. What happend was, those two names are next to each other in my book and I dialed the wrong #. Well, we had a good lough together and then we must have talked to each other for about 20-30 min. It was so nice to talk to her, I had not talked to her in over 10 years.
Well, Stephen, I wish you now the best and hope that you will ajust quickly to your new lifestyle.
May the Lord be with you always, as will be my prayers,
Love, Evelina Tower
June 6th, 2006 at 10:41 am e
Dear Steve,
Although you are having problems, your life is filled with tremendous blessings. Make sure you are eating correctly, and watch that you don’t become a diabetic as well. Research coumadin, and stay away from a lot of green leafed vegitables unless you are getting your levels checked. I am glad to see you are surviving the transition home. In a year you will be rocking and rolling harder than before. Take care dear friend, and may God keep you and bless you as you battle these battles. You are strong, read the scriptures, go to church, you got it, these are your greatest assets for recovery, I solemnly testify in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
June 6th, 2006 at 3:36 pm e
Hey Steve – it’s interesting to me to read all the love and support that has come pouring in for you these past few months. I can’t think of anyone that deserves more than you – you are an awesome guy! I sent out a lot of letters to old WordPerfect/SoftCopy friends – I hope they contact you and let you know how much you meant to them as well. I too will reference this site on occasion, to check in with you and your family. You are one of the smartest people I’ve ever known and I know you’ll rise above this “bump in the road”. Good luck – God speed. Trish
June 26th, 2006 at 3:48 pm e
Hi Steve, I hope u still remember me….I was visiting some websites today when I ended up at novells website…I starting thinking about u and then I found this blog…my heart and my prayers are with u and your family…I hope u r doing ok and that u r improving…I saw some of your family pictures with u…you kids are really grown…Andrew is a youg men! I still remember him as a little kid in SpringWater…And Natalie? she looks so Pretty…I think u have a beatiful family…
We just moved to Greensboro, NC…its really pretty here…we are moving from Virginia Beach,VA, where we lived 4 years…I went to some trials also and had to realize (the hard way) that we can only make it if we come close to our heavenly father and JesusChrist…I had to learn rely on their help throught prayer, and to have faith in them…I think u look outstanding, and I they are looking after u and your family…
Adam is now almost 12, he likes to play nintendo, and soccer…Brianna is 9, she is really smart, and she also plays soccer…Alex is 7, and he is very polite, and smart…and Gaby is 4, she is very active and always dressing up pretty… They all are vey outspoken, and active…our house is never silent, and they are always doing something…
Amy and I have gone through some hardships, but wre are trying to make it…I know she will want to know more about u and Ellen…and how we can help…Please send me an email when u can, I’d like to hear from you..
July 20th, 2006 at 7:10 pm e
Like most of us i havnt written on this for a long time. I think I have been back to Steve house for a week or two since I last wrote. It just seems so much easier to call and talk but also I realize the rest of you would like to hear what we talk about. It is great to see the changes that the Utah Townsends are going through, they are a great example of family. You really get to see all the different personalities. Steve being able to take that clam shell brace off for awhile has got to be a huge relief and when it is off for good I think we can revert to our childhood and blow it up. Thanks again to all the unsung hero’s for your help and support. Dont be afraid to ask when any of you might need some help my number is on here somewhere and I would love to return all the favors. See Ya
July 22nd, 2006 at 8:58 pm e
Hey Steve and Ellen-
You all seem to be adjusting to the enormous yet amazing life-changing experience. Our Adams met at Clear Creek camp last week. My Adam hasn’t stopped talking about your Adam. Give us a call and we would love to get the boys together before school starts. You all sound great. When we are thrown into life’s pools, as we often are, we have two choices—-Swim or Drowned! Keep swimming, all of you! You are doing a wonderful job! Thanks for touching so many lives and for sharing even the hard things! Debbie Hirchak—225-6351
July 24th, 2006 at 10:27 am e
STEVEN, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE UPDATE, AS WE WHO ARE “OUT OF THE LOOP” AND ARE VERY INTERESTED IN YOUR PROGRESS, REALLY NEED TO KNOW WHATS UP WITH YOU AND YOURS.
AGAIN THANKS FOR KEEPING US INFORMED. WE DO CARE WHERE YOU ARE IN THIS LIFE LESSON.
KNOWING THERE IS PROGRESS SEEMS TO MAKE IT BETTER FOR ME AT LEAST.
AUNT M.
July 30th, 2006 at 8:32 pm e
Steven, I’m here in Tahoe with Susan, Gustavo and the kids (the ones I talk about all the time). We have 11 kids here, and 3 adults. We are in beautiful condo. We’ve been to the lake, buying food, preparing for our 2 week vacation. Remember when you were little and we used to come here camping with Dad, and how much fun we used to have. We’re thinking of you, especially tonight. Tim, who is house sitting, called and said, “Mom, I have something terrible to tell you.” I replied, please Tim, I can’t have the bad news. I was immediately thrown back to when Anthony called and said those exact same words, and I almost fainted. It turned out that the only problem at home was that the freezer was not working. Thusly, it sent me back into thinking of you. So we went to the website to catch up and so Susan could read the whole story and letters. Susan is typing this now. She read me your last update, which I did not know about. I didn’t know about your feet or toes moving, so that was neat to hear. Remember, Steven, in the hospital, when I moved your feet and you said you could feel it in your right foot? You said it was laying in a strange position and asked me to fix it. Do you remember that? We never give up hope. There are always things that doctors don’t know. I wish I could research on the computer and find a better place for you to go to get help. I am always wanting to fix you, Steven. I’m your mom, and I can’t help it. Susan is now been able to see the whole story, as she’s been asking about each one of my children. Now she knows everything and has seen all the pictures and sends her love and best wishes to you and your family. You are always in our prayers and my prayers, each and every day. I love you and always pray for you. Good night, Steven. Give my love to the kids. Love, Mom
July 30th, 2006 at 11:54 pm e
well.. i really haven’t been here for about 3 or 4 months and my friend just learned about the accident and it reminded me of this
so i went to it and i was looking at the pictures that were taken right after the accident… ..and i started to cry because just that little cliff left my father paralized for the rest of his life, and there’s nothing i can do about it. .. but i just thought i’d say hello to everyone who comes here that lives out of state and can’t see my dad—he’s moving along just awesomely——(is that a word? no_idon’tcarethough) so yeah .. i’ll just leave now..
August 14th, 2006 at 7:25 am e
Just stopping by to say hello and let you know that we’re still thinking of you. I ran into Ellen at the Provo Festival in July – it was good to give her a hug! We love you all and are so thrilled (yet not surprised – amazing people do amazing things) with the progress you are making. Your tremendous attitude teaches us so much about adversity and the choice we have to either let it defeat us or make us stronger. You guys are my heroes!
February 1st, 2007 at 9:30 pm e
wow… almost been a year eh chap?
February 7th, 2007 at 1:01 pm e
Hi Steve and Ellen!
How are you guys doing?
Sorry I kinda dropped off the planet. Been dealing with my own life issues but that’s no excuse to keep in touch with friends.
It sure is great to see that you guys are still doing fun stuff and all!
I just watched this movie called the Secret and I’l like to bring it by for you guys sometime.
There is this guy in there called the Miracle man who was so paralyzed he had a breathing machine. But he had a goal to walk out of the hospital by Christmas and know what? He did! Not saying this is typical and I know alot of work was involved, but thought it might give you some hope!
Good job on your toes!
Anyway, have a wonderful day!
Love,
Jessica Sellers